Seperated what Now?

You should sinply keep your love focus on the one lady you keep leaving your wife for but don't bring her around your children or current wife.

Have compassion for your current wife and give her a simple divorce leaving her with no more stress or headaches . The child support is figured by a court formula let your wife know your intentions.

I would let your wife know your not bring the other women in the picture for a long time but later you would ask for her support of the kids acceptance if she is still there say 1 year later.

Love your kids and see them allot keep very involved with them by yourself.

See the other women now but make sure there is no crossover spots with your soon x-wife or children.

Tough road but you would be doing your wife and children justice by following the plan listed above.

You really already had in your head the right thing to do ! I complement you for that!

Get yourself a program, a therapist, or something. Having been married 14 years, you are a grown man by now who still cannot delay his gratification and acts selfishly. That's it for my abuse of you. You know your issues better than anyone.

When you find the area/s that terrify you to take a look at and change, you will have found the basic source in your psyche of all the recent confusion and lack of integrity you've been showing. And if you look back... probably of a lot of trying times in your life. This is hard work, but luckily you have extra energy available now as a household of one only.

Your youngest daughter is only 4, you have lot's of time to show her (and yourself) they joys of a healthy relationship. Let your daughters be the "important ladies" in your life. The best relationships with others will be from working on your own issues. I think the other woman is a distraction for you from what "you" need to be doing.

Free others and yourself from the expectations you have of them. Be respectful in all your encounters with either your wife or Ms.X but do not pursue romantic strings with either of them right now.

You owe this to yourself, your children, and anyone else you would like to love.

You can't imagine the pain you have caused your wife, the other women and your girls.

Do you hate women or what? Get some help, go for counseling, if you love your girls. Otherwise they are going to grow up victims just like your wife and the other women.

Physical torture everyone can see,, mental is a huge open sore that never heals...

You really need help.

Your girls are watching dad.

You can never undo what you have done. Be a good father and be there as much as you can for the Kids and your soon to be Ex wife. Man up and give her the divorce so she can regain her self respect and get her life back on track. Your problem is you can't keep it in your pants. Best to know now than to keep on hurting the Mother of your two children. You have really blackened her eyes, now let her go and you pay the price, (not her)

You need to end this madness and get the marriage over with. It is obvious that you are no longer in love with her life and are putting her through a life of hell right now. I think it is best for her, you and the kids if you just get a divorce. Sure divorce is hard on everyone but do you really want to continue doing this to your wife? And your kids? I say move on and start repairing the broken relationship that you have with your kids now.

I think this is my 1st neg response on answers but I've gotta...I hope you marry this woman who has caused your family to break up...I want you and her to be happy...I also hope that all three of your girls find a man JUST LIKE YOU. You need to see the hurt in something you've created before you ever understand what you've truly done. I want your daughters to call you, bleeding their hearts out to you knowing there's nothing you can do about it. That pain you're gonna feel in the pit of your stomach will get you to understand how you could have gone about this so much better. You can't help who you fall in love with...but all the back and forth, false promises to your wife to be better...men...you could have left without all the lies.

You are like an addict........... you are addicted to this other woman, and you're allowing your addiction to run your life. You want to be a good dad, but you can't get over your addiction enough to do it. You see what you NEED to do... but what you WANT to do is tearing your family apart.

You're right........ you do deserve abuse from this site....

You're allowed to feel any way that you wish.... but you do have an obligation to your girls. What are you teaching them? That men leave? That their dad didn't love them enough to get over his addiction to the other woman? What message is that to them?

Do you know that girls who don't have a full time father are more likely to fall into drugs... teen pregnancy... abusive relationships? They'll seek out that fatherly love... and they'll be like blood in the water in a shark tank.

There is no cure for your addiction. You have to man up and beat this thing yourself. The yo-yoing back and forth can't be helping your daughters, or your wife. Or you. Decide on a course of action... put your focus on it, and close the other path you could have taken off completely.

I hope you do the right thing... I hope you're man enough to live up to your daughters obligations. Good luck to you... God bless.

Seek Professional Help!

this may be a stupid answer, but i think if you already haven't you need to get into counseling--- this yo-yo behavior is only hurting th ekids and your wife most in the end

not trying to sound bitter or evil, but if i was your wife, i probably would have done the same by asking you to leave- i wouldn't want to be married to a man who in his heart couldn't love me solely

just start bing a good dad to ure kids i dont think u love ure wife enough or any woman enough,n ure life right now to settle down,but someday u will meet the right person,n it will take time,n u make ure own desiones about ure own life,dont let anyone,make them for u,,good luck,,n try taking one day at a time.