what to do?

Let me just say, Stop holding on. You are hurting yourself more than him.

God really has nothing to do with your husbands wandering penis. You need to move on and no you don't get half of his retirement. Thanks for being that typical military spouse by trying though. Earn your own, get over him and move out. He is a dog in many ways and consider your seven year marriage a waste of your time. Do not spend another wasted day on him. Go file your own divorce papers and go reclaim your life. Your life does not equal him. You need to find yourself and who you are without a man to define you. Go to college get a job do something other than waste your time with this piece of crap. If you want revenge go tell his chain of command you want something done about him having a baby with another person and you are still married. He can be charged with adultery but overall the Army does not care about suck matters unless you have proof of some kind to show them. Life can hurt but you are only hurting yourself by living with him still.

End it. As hard as it sounds, this guy sounds like a dirtbag. As a spouse of a military member who remained faithful, you definately deserve better. I hate to use the cliche "Theres more fish in the sea" but there is. There are lots of good guys out there who will not do you wrong.

I'm sorry all of this has happened to you, I truly am.

Well if he is military and I am assuming he is b/c its posted in this section. You already have the proof you need that he cheated bc shes preggers. But I would collect more - emails, phone records, any letters, pics, anything like that, and take it to command and get his cheating @$$ busted down. But I am vindictive like that. I wouldn't get depressed and sad, I would get pissed, how dare this jack waste 7 yrs of your life, just to mess you up, adultery is illegal in the military. But like I said I am mean when it come to my pride, being damaged, I would also clean out all joint accounts to a private account, and cancel all other joint cards so he can't run up your credit. Wow I am mean HaHa

*Edit* To get any part of the retirement you need to have been married for a minimum of 10 yrs.

As a military spouse, you get some of his entitlements as well as child support. Since you have been married as long as you have, you may even get some of his retirement. Make sure you hire a lawyer who is knowledgable in military law. ALSO - It is a crime for a soldier to cheat on his wife. contact his First Sergeant or Company commander so he can receive an Article 15 or a court martial.

first off i find it kind of odd that he cheated on you with a "juicy girl" and your name on here is juicy...just a coincidence?? anyway if he cheated on you and you are fine with that then there is something wrong with you! he clearly told you that he wants a divorce but you dont want to.. you sound kind of needy to me. and just for future reference you cant really divorce someone behind their back they are going to find out about it eventually.. there isnt much you can do legally unless you want to mess up his career and if thats the case you can get him with adultry but i highly doubt you two will work it out if hes in jail..

i say you stop being so needy and stop being a door mat because if you keep letting it happen this isnt going to be the last time this happens

I applaud you wanting to work out your marriage. However, there comes a time when enough is enough and you need to cut sling. He says he loves you but continues to stay in touch with her knowing that it is causing you extreme anguish. In my opinion, not too much love there.

I assume he is in the military...and what is a juicy girl? A korean woman? I have no idea what you can do legally other than if he is in the military be taken care of there after. Good luck

Leaves his a** and make it as painful as possible for him. I hate to tell you, but if he loves you none of this would have happened. You'll find someone better.

why would you want to stay married to a jerk like that?...anyway, he can't divorce you without your signature ( you have to sign the papers)