Taking a step back?

I think taking a step back from your relationship and reevaluating is a smart thing to do.

Sometimes it's hard to figure out what's wrong and fix it because you are PART of it. People don't often step back from their situations to look at it with a different perspective, which is important. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to be together ALL the time. You both need to take time to work on yourselves first so that you can both come back to your relationship with fresh eyes and a renewed perspective.

My husband and I took a step back from our relationship years ago and we both say it was the best thing. We have been together for 8 1/2 years and it's better now than it was in the beginning.

Good luck!

You have gone a long way to restoring my faith in sticking together when the chips are down. To many people just throw the towel in at the slightest problem that pops up, without trying to resolve it. I expect I'm a lot older than you, but my parents were married for over 50 years and it was only death that parted them. Did they have problems, of that there's no doubt but they stood together and faced anything that came their way side by side. In years to come I hope that you'll be able to look back and smile knowing you came through it together.

Both of you have really realized that your relationship is worth saving. The best thing is to give yourself time to find each others way and then together you will have happiness forever. The best thing in relationship is that time heals all wounds and you two are wonderful to notice it now as this time off will prove time well spent to get your life together.

My daughter is also 8 1/2 months old and she is up to 4 steps already too. Pretty Impressive i'd say.

well you and your boyfriend have a good thing going for you, open and honest communication. keep that up and be honest with your feelings for each other and things should work out fine. Also make realistic goals and have realistic dreams for the future for each other. Get you debt under control and find jobs that make both of you happy. Finish school. But most importantly, be a support system for each other.

Yes, I have. What you are your boyfriend did took a large amount of maturity and respect for your relationship and one another.

Sometimes, it's neccesary to do that in order to move forward.

I personally, think that debt is something that can be resolved together. You and he can formulate a plan and stick to it. But breathing room is not a bad thing either.

Essentially, you have to do what you believe is best for you. If you believe that this was best, believe that the best possible outcome will come from it.

my husband and I are doing this right now...i think we are in the same situation, we were both in debt and rushed things without taking care of our own things separately so that is what we are doing now and so far it is working

if it worked for me does not mean it will work for you, but I do think you both are going in the right directions, being very adult and thinking and talking things thru

just think it through before you come to a permanent solution to temporary problem.

My personal opinion is how you can fix something if you're not together.