Why is he so selfish?

...he is selfish, take the camaro back and get a SUV or don't

get married, now that you know how he thinks for himself!!!

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My husband went out and bought a 40,000.00 convertible truck. The very next week I went out and bought a Buick Lacrosse. But I kept my Mustang. It was paid off.

I am tired of being the bigger person. I was the bigger person raising my children with my first husband who went out and cheated on me . I divorced him and worked 2 jobs for almost 4 years to keep the house , children fed and clothed. Not to mention keeping them in a private school even though it meant I did without.

I was the bigger person when I took care of my father, step father and mother until they died even though I had 2 other siblings and they got as much as I did in the will.

I was the bigger person when I remarried and my husband said , don't get mad I am going to Florida on a fishing trip for a week with the guys.

Well that was the straw that broke this camel's back. Before he got home I booked a trip to the Bahama's with my friend. He never went on another fishing trip ..but I booked another trip and went to Jamaica with my daughter.

What I have learned is that as long as we let them walk all over us and do these things they want they will continue to do it. Is it their fault or ours? Who is stopping us from doing what we want even if it is buying a Mustang.

You are not going to have children for a few years so if you want a Mustang get one. You can always trade it in later or he could trade his care in.

If he is not going to be responsible then why should you? Why even consider marrying someone that doesn't have the same values you do.

So get your Mustang ... why not you deserve it the same as he does. And don't tell him about it either. Two wrongs don't make a right as they say but why is it that it is usually us women that don't get to do the wrong but always are husbands? Why do we always have to be the responsibile ones ?

I bet that when you are driving your new car you wont worry about him in his Camaro.

This same thing happened to me b4 I got married... I was pissed off. But in my case I hadn't sold my car or anything, he just bought a stupid car without consulting me. In my case I think he just didn't know he needed to talk to me first, I think our relationship was a first for him (commitment-wise), but I was mad anyway. I sat down with him and we talked about the significance of not only buying a dumb car, but mostly about how financial decisions in a marriage must be made together. You have a right to be angry, but talk to him so he listens. If you yell at him he's not going to listen to a word you say... Maybe you could have an agreement that he sells the car as soon as you find out you're knocked up. That's what we did. Good luck!

Oh my, I have a Firebird, sooo I can somewhat understand.

Honestly, I think the Mustang actually has a LOT more room than the Camaro...my back seat is only good enough for my purse & books for college lol. Nothing more.

It'll be *okay* for the kids, but not for long. He REALLY should've consulted with you first.

I would just drive the family car for the sake of the kids & convinience.

Simple Swap keys. You get the hot car give him the 4dr. I would like to say this about trading in your car for a 4 door and no kids yet. Why? Even the car you have now will be too old to run kids in anyway. I say you should have kept the stang until you're 6th month. Good Luck

Is it possible that he's getting cold feet? This may just be a subconscious attempt to get you so mad at him that you call it off. Additionally, why do you have to "be the bigger person here"? Why can't he? He obviously knows that you should have made the decision to buy another car together, much less that kind of car. He either doesn't care, doesn't understand or wants to antagonize you. Either way, you to need to talk to someone before you commit to a life together.

You know whats funny, we have a camaro and a dodge magnum which is our family car and i don't get to drive either. He takes the family car to work and takes his keys to the camaro when he leaves. So i don't know how to answer this question, just thought i'd share that most men are jerks.

Yes is very selfish to just go and do that. Take your time before you get married as if he makes rash decisions like that would that make you think what else could he do.

Two of you in the relationship and when kids come along selfishness has to go out the window as the kid has to come first.

Hes acting like hes only one that matters, tell him you are annoyed and treat yourself to something really cool.

Ignore Lostfans response, as no help really.

From the tone of your post it's clear your not pissed because of the so-called" reasons you listed. You're pissed because he didn't get you the brand new car. I bet if that same Camaro was parked in your drive way with a bow around it you'd be too busy having sex with your fiance right now rather than typing this post.

Make him drive the family car...while you look all cute in the other one...then tell him about all the hollers you got from guys while driving it. Bet it goes back the next day...

I would definitely confront him about this. If you guys are about to get married you two should be making drastic decisions as one. Tell him exactly how you feel about what he did, especially mention the children.