How to motivate myself to do housework?

I definately think you need some reflection time. Sit down, and set yourself a goal (i.e.- For the rest of this week, I'm going to help him do the dishes). Just set one goal a week, then once you have started, you will find it's not so bad. Then next week set another goal (i.e.- I'm going to cook dinner every night this week). You will find satisfaction in helping him if you reflect on what it might be like to be in his shoes - visualise him sitting on the sofa watching TV, whilst you do all the dishes by yourself (not nice!). Anyway, I think that "Samantha" was a bit bitchy - We're not all superwoman, and we don't have to run around and do everything for our MEN. A marriage is a team, where both of you need to help each other, and do things for one another!

What are the thoughts that are going through your head when you're ironing? Is there any way you can carry them over to other tasks?

I'd say, don't try to work on the same task as he does at the moment. You need to be in charge of what you're doing, or esle it's easier to just sit back.

I hate cleaning too. But I like laundry. I like the smell of the detergent, I like the splashing water, and the clean clothes. So when I need to do dishes I imagine how I put them in nice piles. I also use more soap to cover the smell of wet leftovers which I hate.

I'm also telling myself that being organized and clean enhances the quality of my life.

Basically, I'm motivating myself by imagining the results.

I have always been bone idle, but since I do not work and my husband does I do most of the housework, though not with a great deal of enthusiasm. My husband has to remind me quite a lot about what needs doing, but he is a natural bossyboots anyway and doesn't mind doing this. Perhaps you could ask your husband to give you a reminder when he wants you to do something?

Back in the Jurassic era when my husband and I both worked, he always used to do a lot more housework than me, and it really annoyed him. I don't know whether it annoys your husband that you don't do much? Is he happy with the way things are? Have you talked to him about it?

While I don't think it should solely be a "woman's job" or anyones sole job for that matter I do think you should start contributing a bit more. He will get tired of it...trust me, if he isnt already. I think it's awesome he's like that around the house dont get me wrong, I just think a marriage should be equal in all aspects...Maybe you should "Jump" on certain chores he normally does before him. I'm sure he thinks your useful...you are working full time therefore you contribute to the household income. I think both partners need to take responsibilty for housework...Motivate yourself by thinking, "ok after I do the ________ I'll let myself watch a movie, read, whatever."

First of all you need to talk to your husband and see if he has a problem with this or if he likes the set-up. Then decide together what the split up needs to be.

I like doing housework by myself but I love having my husband hang out while I am doing it and talking with me. I hate it when he tries to help with the laundry or dishes because I am a control freak and he doesn't do it my way! So he gets a bi on the housework and I get a bi on yard work!

If he enjoys doing the housework, don't stand in his way.

There is no law, that says housework should be the wife's

job. You have a full time job, if you didn't then you would be

expected to do all the housework. If it makes you feel guilty,

just start dusting & you'll look busy.

I really don't like having people help me clean but to motivate myself... I love to blast the radio... and that alone gets me motivated... I put in a cd and just go to town. I am no half a** cleaner I mean when I clean EVERYTHING gets done...

Anywho, so thats how I did it... blasting the radio... dancing arond the house while cleaning!! Talk about fun and relieved some stress!

You said it yourself....your lazy. I don't understand how you could just sit there and not lift a finger. Are you thrilled to be you? You really sound like a useless tool...is he the only one who puts effort into the marriage too? Sounds like it.

What a stupid question....get off the computer and go sweep/mop the floors, clean the bedrooms and bathrooms. do laundry, get him a beer, make dinner, and do the dishes. Being a woman who takes care of the house is something to be proud of....sounds like you are lacking in a lot of things.

He may be great now but he is going to resent you in the long run and cheat on you....with a woman who actually knows how to use a vacum. Someone who gets it all done and still gives him crazy, wild sex.

First just tell him and show him you appreciate him and then give him time off and jump on the hous work that he normally does before he does it.

I hate any kind of housework. I would rather stick hot pokers in my eyes than clean anything. If you figure out how to deal with this, seriously, please let me know.