so my wife comes home today from her gyno, first thing she says is, "you cheating bastard! you gave me HPV!"

tell her that you have never cheated on her..... and that you never will

listen to what the first two wrote.... and have her go back to the doctor.... to verify if there is any truth to it.

that should help ease the situation.

if she comes back saying that she got it recently.... then accuse her of being a cheating bas---d.

See, I went for one, a year and a half ago, and that is when I learned that I had HPV. And the year before that, totally clean. But it could of been a) the guy that I was with for 5 months, whom cheated on me or b) my husband. He even brought that up. I think I know whom it was....guy a.

HPV is not that severe and she is treating it like you gave her herpes or something like that.

I would look her sqaure in the face and tell her to shut her mouth. Now if it had been another STD, then I would question it but you know the truth and she seems to think that she does.

Funny how the 1st thing that she thought about was you cheating. I would question her and how much trust she has for you....it doesn't sound like too much.

It pisses me off that I found out that I have this because that cheating bastard is still haunting me to this day. Its bad enough to ran me into 10,000 bucks worth of debt at the time, and cheated on me and used me, blah, blah, blah but now I have this stupid STD a few years later. He certinely and expensive burden.

Set her straight or if she still thinks you did, ask her to leave for awhile to put things into perspective. I wonder what she will do. Good luck and hopefully crazy face will come around.

Okay, first of all HPV can lie dormant in the body for years. many people are asymptomatic. Women often get it inside. There are over 200 types of HPV, including the common cold sore. Realistically, if both of you WERE virgins when you got married, then one of you at the very least had had oral sex b/c it can & is often passed that way. in fact last year when I was doing a report for college on STDs & STVs I interviewed one of the nurses at the local health department and she told me that she has seen HPV of the throat. So, your wife & you need to do some honest talking and some darn good research before anyone starts throwing any stones or accusations.

Human papillomavirus is the name of a group of viruses that includes more than 100 different strains or types. More than 30 of these viruses are sexually transmitted.

http://www.cdc.gov/STD/HPV/default.htm

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How common is HPV? Who gets it?

Genital HPV is a very common virus. Some doctors think it is almost as common as the common cold virus. In the United States, over 6 million people (men and women) get an HPV infection every year. Almost half of the infections are in people between 15 and 25 years of age. About one-half to three-fourths of the people who have ever had sex will have HPV at some time in their life.

http://www.cancer.org/docroot/CRI/content/CRI_2_6x...

Anything and everything's a possibility here. Viruses can lie dormant in the body for years, and with the new tests they have nowadays, it's more advanced and who knows. There's different viruses and I don't know what the doctor told her about her condition, but you both need to make appts. and get yourselves tested, just to be sure and on the safe side. This is not the time to be doing any blaming yet, don't jump to conclusions. You claim the both of you were virgins, that's your business, that should be addressed to the doctor and you all.

Either way, she shouldn't have acted like that and I'd advise that you get retested and find out exactly what's going on, how you contracted it and what are your medical options here.

I do wish you luck on this one.

She needs to be a little more educated about things before she lashes out. I hot Hpv after i had my baby. And I know my husband did not cheat on me. It is something that just happens in some cases. Also do nt be so quick to say should i leave her....Your married now, you cant just say you want to leave over every lil thing

Wow Why dont you both work together to find out whats going on,,My Question to you is why would you want to leave because of this...I mean its for better or worse,,what happen to love ,,and being each others friends,,,buddy your go ing to go threw a lot of things in this mairrage,,you cant just run every time something comes up ..you need to be there for her,, her mind is thinking all kinds of things right now,, help her through this,, love doesnt stop just because you get married..it get bigger and better,,,with the things you both go threw together,,,grow, live, learn ,and LOVE each other no matter what...now go tell her you love her..and eveything will be Ok...and dont run from anything,,,not even your wife

it seems to me if what everyone is saying about this hpv lying dormant for such a long time, the doctor was very negligent by not explaining this to her at the office. i would certainly say she did not cheat. if you cheated and then got a medical diagnosis, you would not go home and announce it. you would probably try to get it treated and see if you could manage to keep it on the down low. you cannot blame her for her reaction. if she knew she did not cheat, and did not know all the pertinent information about the condition, it was a horrible horrible misunderstanding. i think the doctor holds the responsibility on this one for not explaining. his lack of professionalism and thoroughness just caused one heck of a stink. i would have to talk to him about not explaining all of the details of the disease. sorry that happened. sounds to me like both of you are victims of some bad circumstances only made worse by the doctor.

okay calm down! You could have been a carrier of HPV for years and you would never know!!! Please for both of ya'lls own good look it up and you will learn alot! Nobody cheated on anyone Im sure...this is a very strange type of STD and is just what I said, you were a carrier, I have also heard it can come from a girl having many different sex partners too. Good Luck

First and foremost you still have your self respect and never lost it because you have not strayed outside the marriage. You have one of two choices you can either forgive your wife and yourself because part of forgiveness is letting go you are in part blaming yourself for this happening when truth you didn't do anything wrong. Your wife if she was needing more from you emotionally should have come to you and told you that she needed you to be more emotionally available to her, that she was feeling a little less beautiful in your eyes and or sexy. Communication and being open and honest with ourselves and others is the key in all good relationships. So the choice is do you forgive and go forward or do you not and the marriage will not succeed it will eventually fall apart due to the rift this will create between the two of you. I wish you luck and the best for both of you.

Either one of you could have contracted it way before you met and not known it. Tell her to talk to her Dr. about that. He'll set her straight.

Causes

HPV infection occurs when the virus enters your body through a cut, abrasion or imperceptible tear in the outer layer of your skin. The virus is transferred primarily by skin-to-skin contact.

HPV infections associated with genital warts and related lesions are contracted through sexual intercourse, anal sex and other skin-to-skin contact in the genital regions. Some HPV infections that result in oral or upper respiratory lesions are contracted through oral sex.

Rarely a mother with an HPV infection may transmit the virus to her infant during delivery. This exposure may cause HPV infection in the baby's genitals or upper respiratory system.