parent had secret?

aww i'm really sorry for ur loss, as for his sexuality does it change him or the way he fathered you...? no... he probably just didnt want to upset you or make you feel like u were a mistake or anything (not that u were) i guess he would've told you one day... just try move on, make peace with the fact he loved you and he was a great father...

I am sorry for your loss.

I doubt that your father did not tell you because he didn't trust you. It was more likely that he didn't tell you because he loved you and he was trying to protect you. It would be very hard for a child to learn that their parent was a homosexual. You don't say how old you are but if you are young he probably felt he didn't want to burden you with this knowledge. He also didn't want you to feel different. If you are not young, then there is the possibility that he did not tell you because he himself was not comfortable with his homosexuality. Many people who are gay often do not tell their families because they have not yet accepted and embraced the fact they are gay. The fact that you say he was a closet homosexual makes it seem like he wasn't comfortable enough with it himself to share it with the people he loved. Parents often keep from their children things about themselves they are not proud of.

I know it is hard to learn something like this about your dad, especially after he is gone and you can't talk to him about it. You have to keep in mind this does not change who he was to you. It does not change the relationship you had with him or the type of father he was to you. And it most certainly does not change the love your father had for you. And it really does not change who your father was. It only changes who he had or wanted to have sex with- which really doesn't matter. Who he has/had sex with has nothing to do with his relationship with you (even if he was having sex with women- it would be the same thing).

Try to remember who your father was to you and focus on that. Know that he loved you. Do not question your relationship with your father- there is no need to.

You may be making more of this because you think because dad was homosexual that you might be which is very wrong. Don't let this wreck your life even if you take some counseling. Move on with your life and just remember your dad with all the love he had for you in his heart.

no its not about ur father not trustin u.he may not have wanted u or anybdy to know this.everybdy has secrets it doesnt maen thay dont trust their loved ones.if he was closet homosexual u should respect it and let it b a secret by not thinkink bout it.it would have been the last thing he wanted to b a secret!!

It's something he felt that he wasn't able to, or chose not to tell you. you need to respect that and see that he was doing this to protect you not because he didn't trust you. Just remain proud of your Dad and don't let what you've found out spoil the past memories.

Remember all the good things about him and how he treated you as a person. I think if he was alive and you had a chance to ask him about it, you would have been able to get over it. it's because you cant ask him about it any more. dont think about it as he didnt trust you, maybe you made some comment about gays and he wanted to shelter you from that knowledge.

For him not telling you about it does not mean he didn't trust you. He just wanted it that way or maybe he don't have the strength to say it to you. Now what you can do is to accept it that was the way it was... he is gone afterall and he has outlived the secret.

He is dead, forget it! Remember him as if you did not know about it, otherwise your peeing in the wind and getting all wet for nothing.

it wasnt any of your bussiness, did you tell him all of your sex secrets? The only one he needed to tell anything to was his lover

Love him for him not his choosen lifestyle... he loved you I guess for you not the way you lead your life