My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years.....?

I've actually been in almost the exact same situation..... And I made the wrong choice, but it may not be the same for you....

You see, my boyfriend treated me good, though, he was actually too nice sometimes, but we he wanted to take a break, because he was going through a lot.........

I ended up chossing the new guy and completely ended it with my boyfriend, and it didn't work too weell... I realized that this new guy wasn't all that he cracked up to be, ya know? I ended up missing my boyfriend, and by then, it was too late, he had moved on and already in another relationship which last a year... They broke up this January....... And now, God blessed me with giving me another chance with him, and I won't mess it up this time..........

The important thing is to pray about it, really hard.....

And really think about who you can live without.....

Maybe the romantic side to yall's relationship has fizzled out and he just wants to be good friends, which could work....

Just make you you know who you can't live without, because you're not always blessed with a second chance.........

Good Luck, and God Bless you....

I really hope everything works out for you...........

This is tricky. Did your boyfriend want the break to just be single for awhile, fool around, etc? If so, you don't owe him any loyalty. Did he want it because he realizes he's treating you more like "a good friend" and thinks some distance might spark more appreciation in him? Or is he seriously thinking that 3 1/2 years is a long time and it might be time to take the next step, but wants to go into it prepared? Answering those questions might help you sort that out.

Of course, the thing that will help you the most is asking yourself if, regardless of whether or not you can find someone new, you want out of the relationship. If this new guy wasn't around, would you still decide you'd rather stay broken?

A new romance is always exciting. Guys are always super sweet in the beginning. If you're seriously invested in your boyfriend, then give him a chance. Or, talk to him, and see what he's thinking. If you're kind of over it, feel free to move on.

If your current "boyfriend" wants a "break" its usually not a good thing.

However, be careful. If you decide to split with your current boyfirend for this new guy because he is such a gentleman and knows how to treat a lady. Alot of guys start out as a gentleman but eventually once he thinks he knows you and knows your not going anywhere he might become less of a gentleman and ask more of you than he should

If this happens, then you will go through the "what if" stage where you will wonder if you would have been better to stay with your current boyfirend wo needs a break

Think about whether the life you had with your boyfriend is the life you want forever, keeping in mind that relationships are not always full of sparks and new beginnings but evolve into comfortable patterns that can still be loving, kind, etc. The new guy probably reminds you of the early days of your relationship with the old guy but the "thrill" will fade too. Decide if the boyfriend has the characteristics you want in a long-term partner, father of children, co-supporter of the family, etc. If he does, stick with the tried and true. If not, move on with the new guy or open yourself to others who might have those qualities.

Think about when you first met your boyfriend. What did you like about him? were the reasons similar to why you like this new guy? I wonder if perhaps you've just forgot some of the reasons you fell in love in the first place, and you've been together so long you've just gotten used to each other, gotten to comfortable. The once exciting characteristics you used to see in him when you first dated have just become too familiar. And this new guy is...well...new. So here is what I'd say. Think about the things you love about your boyfriend. Dig around and think about memories you've shared, good times, bad times...are those worth holding on to? Now think about the new guy. in 3.5 years, is he going to still have the same charm he has now? or is some of that going to fade a well?

Now, you do need to be honest with your boyfriend about what is going on. And I've got to tell you, it is too late not to hurt him. Although he did call the break, he may still have strong feelings, and to hear of you with another guy is probably going to be painful. No way around that. You've just got to be brave enough to be honest. And no, you cannot give you heart to both of them. That isn't fair to either.

wasn't your boyfriend all nice and everything at the begining? It's always the same, all nice, buterflies and everything and then this side fades away and you get into the real Love part of a relationship. Is that guy worth losing all you have built with your bf? And what exactly is going on between you and your boyfriend right now? Is it really just a break or is it the kinda of break before breaking up?

Hey :)

I've been in exactly the same situation...my relationship was for just over 2 years however...but i found out my bf wasn't treating me like he usually did as he had also been seeing this other girl (well just as good mates so he said) behind my back. Whilst i had also been paying regular visits to my ex's house as we were still really great friends and he's the only one i can talk to about certain stuff!

well he made me realize how much i missed him and i started to take in that maybe my bf wasn't the one for me.

so my ex and i started going out alot more and spending more time together and i started falling back in love with the guy i knew when i 1st met him!

so i say you should tell ur bf that there's someone else on the scene and how he makes you feel, tell him that you feel he's neglected you these past few weeks etc..and whether he thinks there is a future for you both??

hope it helps !:) xxx

Since you have been with your boyfriend for so long and it seems that both of you are now having second thoughts... I believe that it's time for the both of you to move on.

I wouldn't tell him about the other guy, this will just make it harder for the both of you. Since he initiated the break I think you two should sit and talk, perhaps over lunch or dinner, and talk about your feelings. Tell him how much you care about him but you think it's time for the both of you two go your separate ways. You love and care about him, and will always be there for him, but it's time to move on.

You can keep dating this other guy but I wouldn't recommend getting too serious yet since you are just getting out of this other relationship and it will still take you a while to fully get over your current boyfriend. I wouldn't jump into any physical relationship with the other guy just yet.

I've been through this plenty of times (it probably isn't the first time that you will) and I've learned that if you are having second thoughts at all then its just the beginning of the end and you might as well just end it now!!

Good luck and have fun :)

Keep seeing the new guy. If your boyfriend really loved you he would not have let you go. I know you love him however he is the one that wanted the "break" so I would keep seeing the guy that treated me like gold. You deserve better than some guy throwing you away after 3.5 years. Good luck with the new guy I wish you all the best.

Follow your heart. If you like this new guy, then keep seeing him. If he really does treat you better and make you happier then you have to pursue it. If you don't, then you'll always wonder what would've happend. After all, it was your boyfriend's idea to take a break. If you think that things may be salvagable with your old boyfriend at least make sure that you two did agree it was okay to see other people during this "break". If it's meant to be, it'll be.