why do i keep getting molested?

Its not you that has the problem but the a@#$holes that are around you. You need to speak with a councillor about this properly. This is something that will always stay with you if you don't seek professional help.

Empower yourself and hold your head high. You have dealt with a lot of issues here and its reasonable to seek the support that you need.

Good luck!!

(As a side note and at the risk of sounding like a 'grass', I would strongly suggest all responsible posters to report answers that are abusive or incontructive to serious issues like this. To suggest that this is the posters fault because of the possible size of her titties or to talk about the name of your dog is plainly irresponsible and possibly dangerous given the possible state of mind of the person who posts the question.)

And now watch how many thumbs down I get for this! LOL

confidence is plays a big part. In fact, a study was done using thieves. (im sorry but i dont know the actual website you can find the study on.) It tested who thieves were more likely to steal woman purses from. Some hypothesized older ladies, some thought the rich. However, they study showed that the most woman with their purses stolen were woman who were quiet, walked around looking at their feet. Why? Because thieves (like molesters) know that these type of people won't do anything. They wont cause a scene.

I dont know who you are, or how you were raised. But having confidence in yourself, what you want, and where you are is something you should have in your life. Not just for yourself of course, but to ward off asses like the men that have molested you.

Be strong. Carry pepper spray. Work out. Let others know that you love who you are, and your going to do whatever it takes to stand up and protect yourself as a person.

The reason you freeze is that what mind forgets your body remembers. You actually go into victim mode. Rightfully so.

I have similar issues, Reading your page was like reading my life as well. I have went through group and counseling too.

Unfortunately there are predators out there who can take one look at us and see that we are a mark for them to hurt. (sick freaks)

I can tell you, that when I started to see myself self as not the victim but rather a survivor then I projected that. It may sound easy but if your honest with your self it is not that easy.

You sound like a strong woman who just needs to look inside yourself and be honest with your self. (thats the hard part) Do you see yourself as the victim or are you a survivor?

I believe that you are a survivor.

It was not easy but I did it and I have been successful with it. I am 38 now and it has been 15 yrs since I last had an issue.

I will be praying for you

Hmmm, that's not a good thing. There's probably nothing wrong with you, or it doesn't seem like it, maybe it's just a coincidence? Things like that happening that many times though is strange. Have you ever reported any of them? You really need to and should.

you need to talk with a family member that you most trust and please tell the police and one thing you must do is be strong and start fighting for your self and protecting yourself ,you are 18 yrs old now and you have to look out for yourself -you need to have atittude and not be so sweet with mens or strangers .maybe these mens see that you let them touch you or talk to you any kind of way but you must stop them -dont let anybody not even touch your face or kiss you at all.start being strong and learn how to say no but please talk with somebody..i hope you told your family that your brother did that to you..i am worried about you.-you poor thing speak to someone you trust and that could help you dont be alone and dont blame you .you earn respect by everybody..stay safe wish you luck..

i beleive that when u get abused for the first time it creates in you a fear. This fear when picked up by a normal person makes them think "oh this person is scared of me, I had better leave her alone". A rapist will pick up on this fear and say to himself ":this girl is scared of me so i can easily manipulate a situation wherebye i can rape her". so in future if you find a male is unusually interested in you then run for the hills. yoh probably think you are rubbuish (these rapists are rubbish girly)and you think that you can never trust another person again. i have had a lot of healing in the church. god has a plan for your life to make you the happeist you could ever be but u have to depend on him. You need PEACE.

This is a problem one of my daughters has experienced. It started when she was 3 or 4, repeating in later childhood and teens. As her mom, this question has concerned me greatly.

Through reading and talking with psychologists and therapist, an "understanding" of the issue has helped me to put it to rest. With thankfulness, she has not reported any further incidents in over 10 years.

Allow me to attempt to explain what I have come to understand.

--The initial perpetrator of sexual abuse does lasting DAMAGE to the child, and this damage includes a sense that the child is not fully in control or her own body, including the "right to say NO". This damage is behind the person's not feeling entirely sure of herself, whether in how she walks, not making eye contact, or in the opposite way of "seeking out" risky behaviors.

As we all have our 5 senses (hearing, seeing, taste, smell, touch), we are also keenly aware that we possess other senses assisting us with "reading people" or "vibes".

Through some mysterious way, perpetrators are able to "sense" a "damaged / victim" when in her presence -- and she AGAIN becomes a TARGET or an EASY MARK

(This is how it was explained to me by psychologists)

When it comes to the bad situations you speak of, and that you tend to "freeze-up" you are here telling us of what the damage has done to you. You are unable to run or fight.

This is the very type of DAMAGE SEXUAL ABUSE DOES!

For you - you are not "looking for it"

--you are not "asking for it"

--you are living life as anyone else would

--Perpetrators are prowling like wild animals seeking to kill,

they are out there seeking their "next victim"

--The perpetrator is the "problem person" here !!

--It's just so sad that you have lived with this damage done to you by those perpetrators.

My own daughter has learned to surround herself with people who "look-out-for-her" and she has also purposed to "gain-street-smarts" she has purposed to learn "boundaries"

Today she is so different from the "victim" daughter she was.

Therapy and bosses and friendships and work-experience

have taught her to be a savvy city dweller. She has also learned to minimize her vulnerability, such as living in a secured building. Before she was unaware of her surroundings. Today she is very much aware, and yet able to walk confidently and unafraid.

If your therapy has not progressed much in the past 2 years, consider finding a different, well experienced, psychologist who will walk you through the process

A TIP -- At your therapy sessions, and inbetween, TAKE NOTES and Keep a Journal.

--And ask your therapist to work on personal safety issues

a really wise idea for you would be to learn a self defense...

something to give you self confidence and a way to protect yourself....

maybe you are not talking to the right therapist ... time to find a new one..

god i hope every person that hurt you , you reported to the authorities I'm really sorry, what did your mom are dad do,? please carry perfume spray bottle with you and if someone starts trying to mess with you keep spraying them in the eyes, are carry a pen and stab them in there eyes, please seek and stay with counseling and, stay away from anyone that hurt you,remember that they will answer to god honey, good-luck and remember stay safe

It sounds like you need to move. Im religious so this might sound weird. It does sound like you have a curse on you, probably one that started way back in your family line and then was passed on to you. Now if you were a believer, and Im hoping that you are, I would break that curse off of you in Jesus name. I would also talk to my preacher.