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Holiday asked in PetsDogs · 1 decade ago

How long to put up with his dog that bites me?

I know that I have written about this before, but I am totally at a road block. I love my boyfriend and we talk often about a future together. His dog has aggression issues and aggresively bites me when ever he feels like it. So far, in the past 5 months, he has bitten me 5 times, the last time being yesterday when he was sitting on my lap.

My BF has had a trainer over and we have been training him since January but this still continues. The trainer emailed me saying that this dog is the type that will bite when given the opprotunity. I dont want to live in a house with a biting dog for myself, my cat and my future children.

I dont know what to do as I feel like my only choice is to leave the relationship or live with this disrespectful dog. My boyfriend says he will not get rid of the dog.

What other choices do I have? What would you do?

Update:

we dont live together.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Get rid of your piece of crap boyfriend. Yup, you get to move out. I usually get a lot of thumbs down when I say this, but the reason a guy shacks up with a girl and doesn't marry her first is because he doesn't respect her.

    Edit: Even if he DOES get rid of the dog, he let the dog bite you 5 times now. He should have done something about it when it first happened.

    Edit again: You are at least the second girlfriend he's shacked with an didn't bother marrying first. Do you see a pattern here? He uses women who volunteer to be his free sex slave.

  • 1 decade ago

    Maybe you could suggest getting a second opinion from another trainer or someone who deals more with Behavior that training? There is a difference.

    I personally would not put up with a dog biting me in my own home. If a couple selected trainers tell me what yours did (and all of the trainers answers were similar) then i would seriously consider giving the guy an ultimatum - if you can't control the dog and all of your trainers have said as such, and refuse to euthanize the dog, then i go.

    I would definitely think more about your own health right now, as opposed to future children. You are there now and have to deal with this. The harshest way for him to see reason is to report his dog for biting - or threaten to. THe only downside is that you may not win in a legal argument because YOU knew about the dog's aggression and continued to live there despite the risks.

    Has the dog bitten anyone else in or outside the house?

    Source(s): Owner
  • 1 decade ago

    If you really want to continue the relationship, perhaps you could try another trainer, one who specializes in dogs with aggression problems. I'm no expert on aggression but it looks like the pack order in your house goes boyfriend, dog, you. The dog feels free to bite you because you are beneath it in the pack order. This is not acceptable. I don't know how it got to be that way but if you can't fix it, I think you have to leave. Give it one more try. I hope the boyfriend is paying for the trainer.

  • 1 decade ago

    I have been on the other side of this situation. I have an aggressive dog and the person I was with wanted me to move in with them. However, with Zona being aggressive and there being children involved we called in a trainer. The trainer said flat out the first day there was nothing that could be done. He could not be around other people and definitely not children. The only way I could move would be to put him down or give him to a junkyard.

    As much as I liked who I was with, my dog is my baby, My responsibility. I can't give up my baby, abandon him because it would be conveniant to me, and your boy probably feels the same way. You may just have to part ways.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If the trainer says this is the type of dog that will bite when given the opportunity,the only opportunity this dog would have is going out the door to another home.If your boyfriend can't see this is a problem,then he has a problem.If this was me, it would be real funny when they took us to the hospital to remove my foot from his a--.This is not a good situation.This dog has the potential of causing some serious damage to someone.Sorry,I would never put myself in this situation.If this guy truly loves you,he wouldn't want to see you hurt. I say get rid of the both of them.Better to be sad now,than seriously hurt later.

  • 1 decade ago

    Some aggressive dogs simply can't be fixed. It is unfortunate, but true. Some folks will tell you that love and training will fix any problem. I don't accept that.

    If it were me, I would move on. What kind of life would you have always worrying about the dog attacking friends or family? If nothing else, think of the liability issues. Your bf has made his decision, now you need to make yours.

  • Ty B
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Your trainer should be fired. Any trainer that says what yours did has no idea how to change dog behavior.

    You need a new trainer. Every day I deal with dogs like this in my dog training company and it is something that can be fixed in days with the right methods and consistency.

    Don't put up with the problem, get if fixed.

  • 1 decade ago

    That is sad.... I am glad you have tried so hard to work on this together.... Personally, I would say that your bf's very unwillingness to give up the dog is part of what makes him such a great, loyal person, but I understand your not wanting to live in fear just as well. Can he be an outside dog and wear a muzzle whenever he enters the house?

    Edit: How old is the dog? Just curious.

  • 1 decade ago

    Go to http://www.animalbehavior.org/ and get a consultation with a certified Applied Animal Behaviorist. Trainers train behaviors; they're not specialists in solving major problems like aggression. Before making any decisions, have him seen by a true animal behaviorist - anyone listed on that site has an advanced degree in Animal Behavior AND has passed additional tests and experience thresholds for certification.

  • 1 decade ago

    That trainer needs to be fired. There is no dog that bites for the sake of biting. The is always a reason for the biting and breed is not a reason. Dogs bite because of fear, and abuse or trained to bite. I don't what laws you have in your area but a dog that bites more then twice is illegal in my state and must wear a muzzle.

    Source(s): Animal Control
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