How do you deal with a crazy mother?

Your father needs to get some balls and get your mom to a doctor. He and your sister can clean the house, your mom be damned. I know you love your mom, but she needs some tough love. The house only got that dirty because you guys listened to her.

Your mother need help.I wounder why you or your dad did not do anything about the rubbish.Is it because you don't seem to care ab out it.Your father should take charge and make sure the home is Spick and span.Why allow your poor mother to keep the house clean all the time.May be she is just fed up with your father's attitude.There must be some thing not right since your father has moved to stay in the garage and you did not say if your mother move in to stay with him.Both your mother and father need help.Report the matter to your school principal and may be he can help do something about it.

I am really sorry for what you're going through- it's hard enough at that age dealing with "average" parents- so I can't imagine compounding the issues with this hoarding disorder. It sounds like your mother has a compulsive hoarding problem This is much more complex than a "pack rat." Children of hoarders face all sorts of difficulties- and there actually are support groups for them. Your mother needs psychiatric attention, and although she may not listen as much to you, she might seek help if you give the info to your father and he approaches her. Here is a website to get you started, although there are many more if you just Google it. Best of luck to you!!

On the one hand, since your not married, thats not a big deal you were not invited. Why did you go stay with your parents anyhow? If you live on your own, why go there while hes gone? Thats what I am wondering here, since you know how crazy she is. To pass up a trip to Europe thats paid for sounds insane to me, but then again if she would ruin your trip then I guess its undertandable. The thing is, by now, at your age, and living on your own, you should be able to tune her out by now, you should know simple yes moms (even though you dont agree *I dont mean on going to Europe, I mean in medial things she brings up) and then going home, knowing you giving into her during conversations, to avoid arguments, and going on with your life, is your own downfall. As we grow older, we are suppose to grow wiser, as best we can. We learn to nod, we learn to smile and say yes, and under our breath count the mintues till we get to leave. Until you can learn to master that, like everyone else your age, you should consider yourself immature. I say this for your total benefit. Learn to pick your wars, green salad instead of potato salad is no reason to ruin an afternoon. At some point it gets rewarding, realising how good you get at avoiding fights, and mom will see you as wow shes so grown up! And might cut you some slack! She will never know your only yessing her, and to her its so nice to hear it, crazy or not. Work really hard at mastering this, you do know right, that mental illness is very hereditary, and you need to keep yourself in check, so you, dont fall ill like she has. I swear, the more you can try to give in, visit with the notion of, ok heres the weekend from heck, but I will just agree, and leave and live it how I want to, will really make life easier. Dont consider it lying, because its more important to breed peach then war with parents, and especially if thier mental ok. Take care, and I hope things go better for you. Your already taking care of living on your own, working, and being a good person, so your fine ok.

Oh goodness call the Department of Health..they will tell her that since you sister who is a minor is staying there she has to clean that crap up. She definitely has some kind of mental disorder. I have seen episodes on TV of real life psychiatrists going to people homes who do this and counsel them about the situation. I think that when something is done about it you Father will be more than grateful and so will your sister and most of all you..

I lived in that house too! And my mom still lives that way.

I once threw out 255 bags of newspaper and burnt it at the beach.

I also, found $500 cash, and a check for $1200 that never got sent.

Sit down with your mom, and tell her you and her are going to go through one room on saturday. And if she is too busy are doesn't want to help you will do it yourself.

If she starts having a cow, like NO don't you do it.. blah,blah, blah

Ask her if she thinks it is okay to live like this?

That tell her you all can go on the Dr. Phil's show together,

Or do it yourself, but accept your mom to be pissed at you for a long time...

but the mess will come back

I know she's your mother and all -----but you need to consider the facts here. she isn't in her right frame of mind right now as to consider health and safety conditions of the home or the family right now and somebody needs to step up to the plate and discuss these issues with her at a family meeting. If she declines changing her ideas of living and health standards then as a family you pull together and clean house yourselves as a team and if that is not possible then you need to pull together as a family and get the health department involved for the entire safety of your family and your mother. she sounds like she needs professional help

Social Services, the county health dept., the police, anyone you can think of.

The situation is not good for your sister

Your parents don't need to know that it was you who called the report in, and I'm guessing your dad would thank you if he knew.

Something is very wrong here, and your mother needs professional help. NOW. !!

I'd have to say you're probably right about her having a mental disorder (maybe some form of OCD?) And I don't envy you the position you're in, but your sister has to be your priority here. Your parents probably WILL be mad, but you need to contact child welfare and tell them your story (including your not wanting to be the center of a family war) Maybe they will treat it as an anonomous tip. Best of luck to you. You're a darn good brother.

Contact the health inspector. Living in such conditions is extremely bad for your health. And every mother cares about the health of their child.

You can also try talking some sense into her