Will you marry a guy who has adopted a child for good reason since his bachelor days?

I would marry a man that was noble enough to think of an innocent child's life before his own. If any woman is too selfish to see that this act is selfless and admirable then she isn't worth the ground that the child walks on. By the way, any time someone else adopts a child from an orphanage, it is for good reason. Good for you! And when you do find a woman to date, make sure she doesn't put her needs before that child's.

Well, lets start from the beginning. Race doesn't matter at all when it comes to the love of a child. Or anything else for that matter. The truth is, there is only one race, THE HUMAN RACE. It is said that a child knows they are unwanted and loved. I raised 3 that wasn't mine. They turned out great. They were all boys and I was a single mom. So that shouldn't matter either. Now, the listening, respect, and obeying thing, that will change some when you become the parent. No matter what you think now. Children will always be children and not listen at times. The older they get the worse it get, so remember that going into it. Being a parent and a mentor in two different things. After that, if you are still willing to take on and raise a child that isn't yours, good luck! I don't have any regrets, and would do it again in a heart beat. The world needs more caring people.

No. I would not.

The reason is, that when push comes to shove - sure the ideal picture is a humanitarian man that would give his life to serve his fellow men. But honestly, a woman wants to be the center of your attention. And ONLY WHEN SHE decides it's time to start a family, is SHE ready to focus her attention on raising children.

You would be already eliminating a vast majority of very GOOD and eligible women who you would not get to know by having this little girl as your daughter. Women think about security, they think about how well they can get along with you. If you already come with baggage (even if she's not your BIOLOGICAL daughter), you're going to have women who will know they will not be first in your life.

When you want to start a marriage, the partnership with a husband and wife is first and foremost before the relationship between parent and child. You're putting out an image already that says, this child is more important than anyone.

It's not a puppy, it's a life-long commitment, one that most people usually talk to their partners about and plan it together to make sure their relationship will be strong enough for them, and to evaluate that they have enough room to share their hearts with a child.

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I would understand if you were widowed or divorced, but you are choosing to adopt this child. It's a whole different type of scenario, one that questions where you would place your priority - this is an important factor women consider when choosing a mate.

Priority 1 - the child.

Priority 2 - you - because you chose to do whatever your want, in spite of what your friends/relatives say. How much more would you do what you want, when it's a woman you have no relation to, asks you to do something (or not do something) for her?

I probably would if I loved him a lot. The only reason I dont date people with children now is that I don't want to deal with the other woman, they are very possessive of their children and a lot of the time get mean when some other woman steps in and could have a motherly relationship with their child. But this child is not in that case, so it really wouldnt bother me. I like kids and I would think its admirable that you adopted one.

I think that is very sweet. Any woman that has a good heart would not only understand but probably find you more irresistable. Personally, I do not trust men that do not want marriage/long-term relationships nor children. I think the gesture would make all the those selfish guys out there that are only into clubbing and meeting girls look really, really bad.

The only reason I could see for your family and friends disapprove is because you either cannot afford it, have a long track record of irresponsibility, or have felonies.

Great luck and have a wonderful life!!!

A man with children, biological or adopted would definitely be second choice. I suggest waiting until you get married and have your own and adopt! It is hard enough to make a marriage work, the package deal is always harder! Listen to your family on this question. Good Luck!

I would, but I'm in America where lots of single guys have kids. (I would not date a man who had fathered a kid, though). The question is, are you going to marry a Desi woman? What do Desi women think?

The other question is, are you willing to wait for a woman who respects your character? If so, do what you think is right in this situation , i.e. adopt the child, and have faith that the right woman will be OK with it.

If the man has a heart that big and the girl loves you...then yes.

How can you resist a man who would do something so kind for someone's child? I would LOVE a man who would care enough to want to have a child out of harms way and go out of his way to take care of her.

God bless you for having a heart and don't worry about what anybody else thinks!

I would marry a guy with a child regardless of where she came from. Do not let your friends and family talk you out of giving a child a home and love that she does not have.

I think that is a wonderful idea..You will make a wondeful father and husband one day..Best of luck to you..