Is my husband's sex drive normal?

sex drive varies from person to person and if he is under any kind of stress or illness will lower his drive

Some guys are just comfortable in their surrondings and feel like sex is not the most important thing. Is he doing anything at work that is hard labor? If so, that would be why he don't want it all the time. He's tired and just wants to come home and relax. If your still having sex once a week, that's not so bad. Talk to him about it and ask if the problem has anything to do with you. You might be surprised with what the answer is. I wish I had this problem with my husband!!! He wants it ALL the time and we've been together for 8 years. He don't understand that I get sore!! Well, I wish you luck. I imagine your self esteem must be low. Don't let it get you down. Adjust or get a toy!!

Many things can impact a persons sex drive. I do agree his sex drive is lower than expected for a man in his age group. Maybe he is stressed? Is he under alot of pressure at work? Even diet can have an impact. I notice with my own drive that there is a sharp increase during times when my diet is more healthy. Try cooking some low fat balanced meals, try cutting out sodas. Keep healthy foods on hand to encourage healthy snacking. That will be a tough chore, I know. By making some healthy changes, you may notice an increase. If it something that you are really concerned with, have him check with his doctor, there may be an underlying medical issue

Each individual has an entirely different sex drive but overall, at 21, I'd say his is extremely low. When I was 24 I needed it about 3 or 4 times each day/night, not each week. But each individual is different.

It's something that you'll both need to work on as compatability is an important need in a successful marriage.

Perhaps you can work on increasing his sex drive. That could be fun as well as rewarding. Work on it. Good luck.

It appears that his sex drive may be a bit love compared to most guys since usually it is the guy begging for sex from the wife. It appears he doesn't know how good he has it. Hopefully he is not messing around on you or the other possibility is he doesn't want to be a daddy anytime soon.

If your that concerned about it maybe talk to a marriage counsellor and find out why he has lost interest in sex?.

You'd need to tell us how often you are having sex now. If its down to two days a week, then... well... that IS normal.

But anyway, you need to talk to him about it and tell him that you feel completely unsatisfied, and that you need to consider if your relationship is still right for you. That you feel sexual needs that he isn't meeting anymore, and that is going to be a big problem if you two can't work it out.

Sounds like he's just not interested anymore. Make sure he's not looking at porno, or taking his sexual desires elsewhere!

My husband was like this, where we didn't have sex for weeks. On weekend's I'd wait hopefully in the morning, and he'd jump up from bed and I'd get really scared because that was the only time we were together anymore and he wasn't initiating it. Later on, he told me that his sexual interest was really elsewhere and he wanted to cheat on me. Make sure that's not it, ok? Because if he feels that way, both you guys really need to re-negotiate your relationship, at least temporarily, because you are both completely out of it, and its not working for you anymore.

Of course, if you have kids and a family there is much more at stake here, and you both really need to figure things out first before considering any rash actions.

At 24 I was either masturbating daily or trying to get the real deal. I'd say his sex drive is abnormally low for a man (is he stressed with the relationship or work)?

Normal can be almost anything.

Probably, it's the same things that kill women's sex drives - jobs, mortgages, busted water heaters, screaming kids etc. These things start to happen.

What is "not as often"? A couple of times a week? No big deal. A couple of times a month? Help us out here.

One thing you can do is take charge. Jump his bones and let him know how much you want him.

If this persists he maybe should see his doctor.

It's always better at the start, and then cools off when you're more content and settled. I don't think there's anything wrong with either of you but you need to speak about it so that you can work out that nothing is bothering him making it lower at the moment (stress etc). Maybe he feels pressured as you want it so much, and that's making him want it less. Try to speak and back off temporarily. Try to think how you'd feel if it were the other way around.

I have the same issue too. It's like every man wishes for a woman that wants it all the time, but when they've got it, for whatever reason they decide it's not all it's cracked up to be. Personnally, I think it's because real live human women can't live up to the fantasies men have in their heads, or the pornos men saturate their brains with. The pornos and fantasies are infinately more stimulating. The real thing just can't ever cut it.

He has already reached his peak and is going downhill, you on the other hand are going uphill with your sex drive and will reach it in a few years. I know, it's not fair. I guess that is why the vibrator business make billions of dollars, to satisfy all those frustrated wives. Good luck.