how can I be happy about this?

The hardest part of being a parent is "letting go". You probably just need to sit down and have a "heart to heart" with her. Tell her that you're not always happy about some of the situations she gets herself into, you just want to let her know that you DO still love her and it's something parents do auto-pilot without thinking...it's called protecting offspring. Life is full of obstacles...if you've taught her good basic values she will know and see the end value when making decisions.

Some day you both will be able to look back and smile...thinking phew you made it! The best of luck. Gotta love her...right!

It’s call rearranging your thinking.

You can remind your daughter that you love her and your future grandchild and that you will always be there for her. You’re so wrapped up in hating this guy and all of the bad things that might happen, you’re missing out on being excited about becoming a grandma!

The problem with worrying about the future is that it’s wasted energy. You never know what tomorrow could bring, so why worry about it? Your daughter could be having a child with an upstanding, law-abiding citizen, and that doesn’t mean nothing bad would ever happen to her. Bad things happen to everyone all the time so why not think about the good here instead of focusing on all of the bad?

Bad stuff is going to happen no matter how much energy you put into worrying about it. How about choosing to be happy? It is in your power.

I agree, there is nothing you can do about the pregnancy, it's already done. What you can do, is be there for her! She is your daughter, no matter what the situation is, she is going to need your support and love! I think that's what moms are for! You don't have to be happy about how this all came about, but the child she is carrying is going to be your grandchild! Find some happiness in that! :) I hope you guys can work this out! She needs you now more than ever!

Be a good Mother, stand by your daughter, she will need you.

Your girl is young an pregnant, it will take time for her to face the circumstance she is in. Once she has the Baby, things will change, You can be happy that there will be a grand child, and you will very likely need to take care of the Baby, from your description of the father. Work on forgiving her...... God bless you

how old is you daughter if she is over eighteen then you have to tell her you will support her in what ever she decides to do in her life, but ask her if you can still give her advice.if you ask if you can she wont think your nagging and go out and do the opposite of what you said just to get back at you.she might actually think about what you say instead .and life is to short we all should live life how we want even if that does mean you have to learn by making a few mistakes along the way.good luck with that

Some young people are just idiots. It takes them experiencing horrible things to get an appreciation of reality. If you can get her to, take her to visit an inmate, tour a jail. Show her how daddy will be living. Take her to visit some poor single mothers who dont have a dime to live on and let her see for herself how it works. She isnt getting it so for someone like that if you can its best to paint the picture really bright for her.

sigh

i had to go thru the same thing

the problem you have to remember is this: regardless....this upcoming child is your grandbaby whether you like it or not! and how you deal with this situation, supportive or not will mold the future!

try to be as supportive as you can ....

I can not stand the way my son in law treats me, but in order to see my grandaughter, who was shoved on me the first 4 years of her life, i try to keep peace. she will be 5 soon and is so cocky so much like her daddy, it saddens my heart, but on the other hand, she has a sweet side like her momma used to be, too. So im hoping one day, her momma will come back around when his abuse gets to be to much

:)

You can be mad yes but there is a point when you need to realize there is nothing you do to change the situation and love your daughter for who she is. We all make mistakes but she is still your daughter. She is going to need you.

nothing. she didn't need you to get pregnant. She needs to learn a lesson from this one herself. But I agree with you, life will be hard from now on.

She is immature and he has got her totally fooled. Sadly, she will have to learn the hard way.