More about boundaries/Consequences?

Ask if there was a misunderstanding about how the finances were to be handled. If he concedes that he just decided to spend it, tell him you think you should handle the money so you will be able to fulfill your goal that you decided on together. His past behavior has proven not to be beneficial for you both, so you want to handle things in order to remove the temptation he has to spend.

If my spouse lied to me, took money for a big purchase with no discussion and was acting in a selfish manner I would say I would deal with it by letting him know that it's not ok, that it is unacceptable and if something like this happens again I would lose all trust for him and in turn may leave him. Betrayal is betrayal no matter how you cut it and if your spouse can't respect your feelings then why bother sticking around? A marriage should be mutual and all aspects including money should be mutual and out of respect for your partner you should always discuss things . IF your partner can't understand that then he's not fit to be in an adult relationship.

You need to leave him no question. If he is willing to spend your guy's money without telling you, he is essentially stealing from you and it CANNOT get any worse than this. There is no way around it and at this point, do not lie to your self about it. Even if he earned it all, it is still both of your lives he is affecting by spending it on nonsense things. You might as well go throw your money onto a busy street. This is total grounds for divorce rather you love him or not... he is stealing from you and your children, if you have any. No justification can make this right.

for a spouse lie about something like this shows that there is a bigger problem in the relationship that needs to be worked on.

1. your spouse is selfish and immature and only concerned with his wants right now and not the needs of the couple later

&/or

2. your spouse does not respect you as a contributing member of the relationship

a fair consequence in this case is counseling--both financial and marital. If he isn't willing to go, go alone so you can get clarification on what exactly you need to do.

you take over control of the family accounts?

you have separate bank accounts? as in his, hers and ours. What he spends from his is his business, what you spend from yours is your business and what comes out of ours is for only household bills and expenses.

if he will not respect you then you leave--a very last course of action. Do not fool yourself that this isn't an incident worthy of ending the relationship because it is.

Um..Well I know that this may seem really tough..but you have to let her dad and mom take care of this issue. And a lot of the times I think that it is a big NO NO to have a sex talk with the boyfriend too! and let alone it being uncomfortable even talking about that with dad..I mean it is humiliating..So just give her some time to come around..I know that I would probably be really mad at my mom if she had the sex talk with my boyfriend..As far as the age goes I think that he could be totally using her for sex..So I would be careful with that because it could turn into something very bad! Do your best with saying things in a reserved way since you are the step mom..No offense but just be careful..

I'd set it up to where he had no access to money and pop him in the mouth for lying to me. And if he tried to blame me, I'd tear his *** up.

take the same amount of money, and hide it, don't spend it, that's like saying it's ok for what he did, hide it...see what he says...

or, take their name off of that account, if you made that account...

or, take alot of money and hide it...

see what happens...

good luck!