was at a mother and toddler group today...?

Most people would feel as you do. Just try to understand what her emotional state might be. Even though that doesn't give her an excuse to verbally insult you. Next time just say,

"I'm sorry you feel that way" and move away from her.

You know you are doing great....don't justify yourself to anyone.

Personally I'd tell her that she wasn't invited to the conversation and that it was her choice to wait that long. She's likely just jealous because you are so young and have that many children. It's her fault she's old and can't have kids, when she could have had them young. And as for her thinking that you're complaining and should be greatful, EVERY Mom at one point talks about this kind of stuff with someone else. I talk about it and I only have an 18 month old daughter and one on the way. It's NOT complaining, but a way of relating. You and the other woman you were talking to have a lot in common. The older 'hag' likely felt out of place. Boohoo to her. lol

Every mum needs a good moan now and then. It's hard work and tiring, esp with four under 5's! Our kids are all adorable, and as hard as it is we wouldn't have it any other way.

I have one child with the help of fertility drugs, and hope that I will be blessed with more in the future. At the same time, I fully appreciate that parenting is hard work for all, and sometimes a good moan is all we need before we go on our way!!

Ignore this woman, she has her own issues, but she shouldn't have taken them out on you!!

Aw, i'm sorry you had a coarse time there. It on occasion takes human beings time to heat up. Plus, actually, on occasion mom and new child communities *are* catty - no longer continually, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it happens. don't be embarrassed, there is not any longer something to experience embarrassment approximately. possibly in case you went without your mom, human beings could be extra apt to return up and refer to you for the reason which you have been on my own? and then they does not make assumptions the two? i don't be attentive to, basically throwing that available. in case you're no longer there to make acquaintances, then it does not actually matter huge form besides, i assume. in case you basically choose him to have interplay with different young toddlers possibly deliver him to the park or to the play section interior the mall or some thing. toddlers are extra into solo play besides - they do no longer in many situations play a good take care of one yet another. If I have been you i could supply it yet another risk. :-)

Laugh it off. Pity her if you must, but don't let it get on you. She is obviously pretty self-absorbed and envies you... she felt excluded and bitter at your conversation, she wants sympathy and attention too.

People who can't conceive have a tragic problem to deal with, but it's not your problem, and don't feel bad for a second if you struggle with having a large family. Probably all you need to do is express sympathy about her infertility, and congratulate her on her adopted children, and change the subject to something you have in common.

I would have just said, well thats why I didnt put a career before my family. Sorry that you chose to do that but its your price to pay so dont put your jealousy on me. Excuse me but I will go back to enjoying my children and talking to my mommy friends now. GOOD BYE!

I am sure you are very grateful for your children. Try to let it roll off your back as you can see she is plainly upset about the fact that she put off child bearing until she was out of luck. Its not your fault that she did that and you have every right to enjoy your children and complain about them.

I would but then Id probably calm down & consider her to be a bitter old woman who is jealous & resents the fact that she wasted her life 'concentrating' on her career & now realises it was a mistake.

Each to their own obviously. If people choose to concentrate on their career before having a family, fair play but dont take it out on others when you cant do things that younger parents can because your too old/tired/sick etc

I know soooo many people who do this & think they can buy their childs love with gifts because they dont have the time/energy to spend real quality time with them

She needs to get over it.

Obviously there's something to be grateful for in every situation, but sometimes you just need to vent.

Everyone complains about something from time to time- and isn't 100% grateful all the time. Yes, you're happy about your kids, but are you supposed to be swooning over motherhood 24/7? Come on, get real...

Oh Grrrrr! I hate that people think just because people have kids at a young age that we are all living off benefits. Its not your fault she choose to try and have children at that age. I wouldn't let her upset you, she shouldn't of been eaves dropping anyway, nosey old cow! lol

Try to have some compassion for her. She probably feels incomplete because she didn't give birth to her child. Maybe she's just really lonely and scared..... Whatever. Try to be her friend because you don't know what her reality is and she may be acting out because she's hurting. She probably needs professional help, to deal with her problems too, but it's not your place to say.