Believers in Jesus Christ...?

Not from our own sufficiency.

Only as we live by Christ and draw upon His grace.

What it means is that the Christ finds no fault in the man, if the man loves the Christ as he should then he will love his wife in the same manner. He will find no fault in his wife as the Lord Jesus finds no fault in the faithful man.

As for the helpmate? Well ... have you ever listened to "Bill Cosby's", "For Those Who Have Children, You'll understand"!?

B.Cosby hits the nail right on the head with that bit of humour. Succinctly, Adam (read man here) did not have a thing to do in all of the paradise "Eden" and STILL ...... he needed HELP!

NOT ONE THING OF RESPONSIBILITY! He didn't have to hoe the beans, clean the barn, milk the cows, wash the dogs, pick the corn, feed the pigs, prune the trees, plant the seeds, cure the meat, grow the cotton or pick it, harvest the linen plant or the pumpkins, didn't have to shear the sheep, spin the wool, linen or cotton, didn't have to do a thing and still God looked down and said " The boy needs help"!

Since Eden we have always needed help. God gave us boys "WOMEN", in order to make sure we don't run amok in our testosterone.

I recommend the book "Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge. It addresses some of your questions and defines what it means to be a "helpmate" or as the Eldredges call it "ezer kenegdo". I think being a helpmate is almost more of an emotional and spiritual support for your husband. He needs your respect more than anything. Showing him you respect him and just being willing to put his needs before you own is a great place to start. The cool thing is that it comes back to you. Another great book on this subject is "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerich.

for Men: men can show his love to his wife in loving them as himself (Ephesians 5:33), for who want to hurt his own body or himself? You want always to have good things for your body, so likewise to your wife, if you love her you will do anything thats is good for her and make her happy and always consider this passage (1Peter 3:7), always take care of your wife for she is a weak vessel. So as Jesus did He do all, even to die just give joy and salvation to the church, dont be selfish.

For women: show your love to your husband by giving them reverence, always be in subjection to your husband, obey your husband (1Peter 3:1- 7), always remember your husband is your head as Jesus is head of the church (Ephesians 5:23). Dont downgrade your husband.

The same goes for us Christian men towards our wife. One of the things that us as Christans need to stay focus on is the way The Word of God tells us how to conduct ourselves in marriage. I think we all can agree that most of the worlds perception of marriage today is not as so constituted in The Bible.

These statements were written two thousand years ago when man considered their wife's as another piece of property that they owned. These statements of deep love and devotion is not only geared toward the husbands but also toward the wife's. Wife's are also to love their husbands and care for them as Christ loves and cares for the Church and give Himself for it. "There is nither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. We all belong to Christ.

Jesus came to serve and not to be served, therefor we must also serve one another and submit to one another in Love and in Christ Lord Jesus who is our LORD. We are first subject unto Christ.

God Bless

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Paul's Analogy

Ephesians 5:22-33 is the longest passage in the Bible on the subject of marital relations. It stands at the climax of a series of commands and observations in which Paul instructed these Christians to be filled with the Spirit (5:18). He then characterized Spirit-filled believers as those who are "speaking to one another" in spiritual ways, "singing and making melody" in their hearts to the Lord, "always giving thanks" to him for all things, and as those who are "subject to one another in the fear of Christ" (5:19-21). Having introduced the idea of subjection of all believers toward others, Paul brings his practical exhortation about Spirit-filled living into the home.

The Obligation Of Wives To Husbands

The first word is to wives. They are instructed, "Submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord." The verb "submit" is implicit, brought down from verse twentyone. All Christians should give humble deference to one another, but specifically, wives are to take the initiative to subject themselves to their husbands. The directive calls for a voluntary yielding in love on the part of the wife. The New Testament never tells husbands to subjugate their wives, rather it instructs the wives to take submission into their own hands. This does not deny the husband and wife's essential equality before God, an idea which Paul affirms in Galatians 3:28, where he declares, "There is neither ... male nor female, for all are one in Christ."

Since the two share equality before God, why should the wife live in submission to her husband? Paul says she should do it "as to the Lord." Her submission to her husband is itself an act of obedience to Christ. "Submission primarily honors the Lord who established the relationship."1 Paul does not suggest that husbands are the primary recipients of this act-the Lord is.

There is a further motivation for the wife in making this commitment. Paul announces that marriage is more than just a contract between two people. It is a mirror of the relationship between Christ and the church. "As the church is subject to Christ, so ought wives to be subject to their husbands in everything" (verse 24). Therefore, the submissive wife patterns her relationship to her husband after the church's relationship to Christ. "In the marriage relationship her husband reflects the Lord while she reflects the Church."2

The Obligation Of Husbands To Wives

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church" (verse 25). Paul does not say to the husbands, "Be the head over your wife." Rather he tells them to love their wives. Paul says three simple things about this love. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (verses 25-27), as his own body (28-30), and with a passion transcending all other commitments (31-33).3 He urges the husband to set the tone of spiritual leadership in the home. "At the heart of mature masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility to lead, provide for and protect women in ways appropriate to a man's differing relationships."4 A husband needs to assume a certain responsibility for the spiritual growth of his wife. In order to do that, though, husbands must "give themselves" for their wives (verse 25) by laying aside many of their own personal desires and conveniences in order to fulfill a higher and prior call.

I think that a husband that is willing to die for his wife loves his wife in the same manner as Christ loves his church.

Um, I'm not married...

But I know what you're talking about.

I think I can follow what He says when I have a relationship. It may be hard; I don't know, but I'll follow Him anyway.

I totally believe. I am really religious. that doesnt come out of a teen boy. ya i am sometimes bad but, i think its a good religion and it will bring peace if everyone believed.