My toddler became spoiled overnight?

I wonder if she is trying to compete with her new friends? Perhaps she is jealous because up until now she has had you all to herself. Try some mummy and me time where you so something special that does not include anyone else. Try some struructured art activities so to take her mind of things.

Also if behavior is too bad (I have a 2 yr old) I use the naughty step and have for a while. Whilst they are will not stay there for long, if you use a firm and cross voice they so understand and and calm down a lot. I also used to put her to bed for 5 minutes, she did continue the tantrum for a few minutes but when realised that I was not in the room calmed down.

Those worked for me anyway...good luck, it may be becuase there has been so much change and she is looking for her place in the "new" family.

This is an unusual situation.

I would say that she needs your reassurance that you still love her. THere are all these other children getting attention that she probably had all to herself. She is basically competing wtih them.

I would say give her extra attention for a few weeks and see how it goes. If you put yourself in her shoes, she is worried that these other children will get inbetween your love for her.

When our baby arrived, my partners little girl (from a prev marriage) was all over my partner for a while and trying to get his attention all the time. After a while she settled because he gave her extra attention and played with her more. She realised that he loves her now more than ever regardless of our new baby.

She needs mummy hugs :)

EDIT_ just read the other responses and I don't think it;s time for the naughty step because she is young and now more than every she needs your reassurance not rejection (which is what i think she will see this as). Also, it;s not her fault things have changed so much at home and i really think she needs more understanding. I would say, when/if she gets extremely upset, why not take her out of the room and have a little cuddle just you and her until she;s calm and she will know you are there for her then too. It must be so overwhelming for her having to share her time with all these people suddenly.

She is probably having trouble with whats hers and what attention is meant to be hers, seeing as shes never lived in a household where there are so many other children.

She hasn't learned the concept of sharing yet and won't do for sometime so it's not that much use disciplining her for that. She won't fully understand about time outs either.

Make sure she knows that she has her own space...her own bed and play area and which toys are hers, if it comes to it, ask the other children not to play with her special toys. Also make sure she spends enough 1 to 1 time with just you only.

If she gets into such a state that you can't reason with her, just put her somewhere safe and leave her(if shes throwing up then keep an eye on her), you trying to talk to her or hug her will just make her more frustrated. She's just having tantrums and is confused about whats going on. With no Daddy and moving into a new home shes gonna be having a bit of trouble. She's also in tantrum stage really, it doesn't just start at 2!!!

Just let her ajust a bit longer and see what happens. Just relax and hopefully she will too in time.

you can do timeouts but if u do them u have to stick to it she gets a min for every year of her age so it would only be 1 minute not long to us but for every to her pick one spot that she will go to everytime she needs a time out no where where she can play or see tv ie put chair some where were she has to sit for that min. if she trys to get up before the min u have to put her back in the seat she will fight u thinking u'll give in and let her go on doing whatever it was before so stick to it till she sits there for that WHOLE minute!!!! also when putting her in time make sure u tell her why ie if she hit someone tell her u are here because u hit someone and explain why we dont do that. good luck