I want a man to lean on... Im sick of being superwoman?

Girlfriend....................you and I are so alike. I raised 2 kids the oldest is on her own and the other graduates high school next year. (also over 40)

Cared for my sick mom (she raised me alone and i have no siblings) until she died 2 years ago. I have to deal all the drama and day to day crap................and I'm tired too. I would love to be taken to a nice dinner...someone to give a crap and all the other stuff inbetween!

Wanna be roomies? lololololololol

There are plenty of men like that around, but they're all tired of being used as emotional crutches. You might want to figure out more specifically what it is you want beside a man to lean on... maybe a man to take care of you at the end of your busy day? A man who you kid approves of? Just be careful not to use some poor guy because you're tired of being so independent okay? It's not fun to play that role of the sweet guy who gets walked all over by his independent superwoman.

Yeah, but you must willing look for and accept the right man and not those bad boys and scrubs.

You have to get out, make friends, and mix and mingle.

And you're already attractive, so just be sexy, and you'll have no problem hooking up with a winner who'll want to make you laugh, feel secure, and happy. But you can't sit around and wait for him to fall in your lap.

Furthermore, a lot of women always pick excitement over sensitivity and responsibility. They pick eye-candy and "entertainment" over love. And they rush right into a relationship without really getting to know the man. Take your time....

There are plenty of good men out there, but you gotta "slow-roll" first before you just dive right in hook-up with any old body.

And being superwoman for a long time, you will have to learn how to trust the man to lead and make decisions also. And you can't boss him around and run him ragged with chores either. So, take those things into consideration too. Can your current personality tolerate the responsibility of having another person in your life? Are you really ready for some lovin' and commitment and devotion?

If that's you in the photo, and you're over 40. WOW, You look great! There are many men around, but it would be rare to find a man who has been independent his whole adult life. (if you want a man around your age and he's single now, he probably has kids and was married once or more) lol.. Just let it come. Go out, go to parties when invited to go. If you have any married friends around your age, if they're women.. their husbands maybe have some friends they could introduce you to. If they're male.. then maybe they have some friends they could introduce you to.

You're not a superwoman, you're just someone doing the same as millions of other women in this world. So, if you take your self proclaimed title away and step down off the pedistal you've put yourself on, maybe you'll meet someone. You've made it clear who's to blame, feminist. You got your career, supported your parents, raised your son all on your terms and wishes. You've ignored the people in your life as though they would not fit into your scheme of life. So, how to find a man to lean on, throw away all you have now, go to a bar and get drunk and lean on a man there.

I'm actually the opposite of your situation. I want to be independent and take more care of my own self, I don't know how to deal without my bf. Im too spoiled and want to know what it's like to be a grown women. (im 24)

Yes there are still men out there like that I consider my self one. You sound real nice and like you got it together. Sounds like you need a vacation. No offense but you are a Lil to old for me again no offense. Good luck

The best way to get a man to treat you like a princes - is to let them.

I heard all the good guys turned gay, because they couldnt handle women and their drama :) lol

keep being independent (guys love that), but still keep yourself out there.