In the Bible, I need help trying to find scripture or scriptures about "waiting till marriage" for sex

Well, Niki, it sounds like a sincere enough question.

First thing that comes to my mind is what Jesus said in the sermon on the mount, "Seek and you SHALL find, Knock and it SHALL be opened unto you. For EVERYONE that asks receives and he that seeks finds.." (Matthew 7:7,8) Your sincerety, and your looking and trusting Him about it GUARANTEES you are going to be answered!

Having said that, it is also said that you can "Prove anything" from the Bible. So you need to not let someone beat you over the head with one or two verses from the Bible and ignore the main intent of it throughout!

If you have a "significant other" and a precious life on the way, (which -by the way-- God has formed inside of you) it sounds like --at least to me--that God has chosen some parents for that child. Sure there's a "rulebook" but the people who know the rulebook very well, and are familiar enough with it (not just accepting what the preacher tells them on Sunday, and no more) Those people know that the Rulemaker even sometimes breaks the rules Himself.

Sometimes some of His most important, key people have even been allowed to break the rules, at times to accomplish purposes that are even more important than keeping the rules.

Samson, David, Jesus Himself, and more all did things which were "not lawful for them to do.

But the Christian religion is NOT about keepng a bunch of rules, sorry: it's about love!

If some preacher tells you, "Sorry, you guys gotta split up! You're ""livin' in sin" "And even shows you some verses from Paul on the subject --and there are plenty--still, God expects you to seek Him about it, personally, and do what you are "fully persuaded in your own mind" is His will. (Romans 14:5) Because if it's His will for you to stay together, and you let someone talk you OUT of it YOU'LL be responsible, they'll only be a "do-gooder" accessory. On the other hand if the Lord DOESN'T want you together, even though there is a child, and I or any one else encourages you to stay together, there will be heartache.

That's why it's so important for you (BOTH of you if possible) to get down to business with God, and ask Him to show you what He wants. He already promised you He would! (James 1:5 ; Jeremiah 33:3) Don't put the responsibility on somebody else! You'll only be sorry, and continually unsure about what you should have done.

One bit of advice I'd give, and I'm coming from the standpoint of a "burned child": if your partner is a non-believer, you're gonna have a VERY tough time. You will be "unequally yoked together" (2 Corinthians 6:14) and that'll be like putting a Chiuahua beside a rhino to pull a plow. Chiuahua's not gonna have a lot to say about which way they're gonna go.

But if He DOES show you to stick together, even though you might get a lot of difficulty, you'll still have the confidence to know you're following what He led you to do. And that's a big plus!

Edit: before you let someone lay some trip on you, "Fornication" is NOT "sex before marriage", it is wild fooling around all over the place. Too bad some of the people who have the Bible figured out so well, don't know a word of Latin or Greek.

I suppose Adam and Eve had a valid marriage certificate before they got the COMMANDMENT to "be fruitful and multiply" --Not the "greatest" commandment, but nevertheless, the FIRST commandment!

Look, we're not faced with things the way we may wish they might have been, were faced with things the way they ARE..right NOW! And that's ALL we need to deal with.

Neither a paper from a church or the state will make it "right" if it's NOT "right", and if it IS right, it can wait till you're SURE it's "right".

I think these "fornication" people should read Matthew 23:4, in fact, the whole chapter about the hypocritical Paresees, and how they pretended to be so holy and proper and yet they were the EPITOME! the very WORST examples that Jesus particularly pointed out as rotten self-righteousness! PEEE--YUUU!

No wonder He hung out with the drunks and the prostitutes, He just could't stand the STINK of all that "religion"! GOOD NIGHT!

-----------Sionarra

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Fornication is mentioned 44 times in the King James Bible...

2nd.Chr 21:11;Is.23:17;Eze.16:26,29;Mt.5:32; 19:9; Jn.8: 41" Acts 15:20, 29; 21:25; Rom.1:29: 1Cor.5:1; 6:13, 18: 7:2: 10:8;2nd.Cor.12:21; Gal.5:19; Eph5:3; Col.3:5; 1st.Th4:3; Jude7 and Rev.2:14 would be a good start. Marriage Sciptures Gen.1:27: 2:18; 2:24; Gal.3:13, 26-28 1Cor.11:9-12; Eph.5:23-33; iCor.7:3,4; Gen.21:12; 2nd.Cor.6:14; that should get you started. God Speed to ya.

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I'm not sure where is says all of that in the Bible, but I was taught mostly on New Testiment.

God's words were LOVE. Maybe look at the subject objectively; if you feel safe with your partner now, have open communication with them, and there is love and strength in your relationship, then I think you're already living by God's words. Marry only when you are READY.

Lots of people marry that are in terrible situations, or there is no love, or marry 'oh because its tradition'. But is that right? I donno...

Do what feels right to you, and what feels right for your capacity of understanding God.

Remember too that many different Christian Denominations believe in different values of sacraments..... some believe you -have- to baptize your baby ASAP... some believe is is just as acceptable to wait till they are older, or even adult. Some need to have the member go through various sacraments to get married in their church, others do not. But does it make one more right than the other?

Or is it LOVE we're supposed to have in our heads, not all the extra human-centered things that cause arguments in families and leave people filling mixed up about their faith when really simply having a concentration on God's love has set them on the right path?

Probably a more contemporary view, but I think questioning this is a very healthy thing, and means that you take your faith seriously, and want to discern it properly.

good luck!

I consider myself married spiritually but have yet to "get the blessing of a priest or the state". We call each other husband and wife and I think we have worked hard enough for that right -7 yrs together- despite not doing the white dress bit in a church. The particulars of my first experience I'd rather not share. Sufficed it to say I have never seen him again. And I wish I had given it up to someone who would have appreciated what I was giving away. I have to add though, Miss Music - Will you hold your fiance to the same standard? How will you know he is a virgin or will always suspect him of giving his 'specialness' to someone else besides you? I am not trying to belittle your decision but I find it unrealistic that you would find a virgin just for you. Men's ***** twitch at anything with **** that walks by. Good luck finding that virgin.

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1 Corinthians 6:18 says "Flee from fornication. Fornication is sex before marriage. Premarital sex is a serious sin against God! “This is what God wills,” states 1 Thessalonians 4:3, “that you abstain from fornication.” Premarital sex also leads to illegitimacy as you are well aware. It can also lead to abortion, and premature marriage each with its painful consequences.

1 Corinthians 7:3, 4 says: "Let the husband render to [his] wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to [her] husband.  The wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, also, the husband does not exercise authority over his own body, but his wife does. Notice the scripture talks about a husband and wife not unmarried partners.

Premartial sex often detracts from marital intimacy! The emphasis is on self-gratification, the physical aspects of sex. Mutual respect is undermined by uncontrolled passion. In marriage, however, a healthy intimate relationship demands restraint, self-control. The focus must be on giving, ‘rendering one’s sexual due,’ rather than getting.

Those who wait until marriage also enjoy peace of mind, knowing they are pleasing to God.

I hope this information helps you in your quest for knowledge about sex and marriage or the lack thereof.

When I need biblical answers I go to crosswalk.com; as for this issue though I can't find much other than the original intent of sex is to unite a husband and wife insuring them a bond that they have with no one else. SO i guess it is just supposed to be a part of marriage not necessarily any relationship. But I can't find much evidence, sorry.

1 Thessalonians 4:3

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.

1 Thes. 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

My advice: Get married now if the baby's father is a Christian also. If he's not, the best thing might be to move back in with your family for now, if possible. Pray for wisdom and guidance. Read your Bible daily. Be faithful in attending a Bible-believing church.

Here are a few verses about fornication, see Bible.com for more information.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body

1 Corinthians 7:2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Galatians 5:19

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

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