Why am I like this?

You are too kind that is your problem AND because you so readily give, people oftensee that as a sign to walk all over you. Only you can change how they see you. Next time they ask a favour, if it is something that they can do themselves, I would say NO. It wont be easy but they will soon start to realis that they cant be so dependent on you.

Also I would talk to them and say exactly how you feel. They will probably fell awkward and embarrassed. They might not have even realised that they were treating you this way. Be strong and tell them what is happening to YOU. You might be surprised by their reactions. You never know until you try.

For Shure I Am Like This Often. I Rather Help Others Than Myself But At Times You Just Gotta Say No To Your Friends And Sort Out Your Own Problems. You Also Should Explain To You Friends That You Have Helped Them In The Past And That They "Owe You One"

Hope I Helped A Bit

Pce Bro

You realize that you are setting yourself up like this over and over, right? You are constantly testing people by doing things for them and then asking for them to do something for you just so they can disappoint you. Why do you need to do that all the time? Do you just enjoy being the poor, ignored soul that "everyone is unwilling to help?" Are you really "always there for everyone?"

Sort through your motives before you give anyone anymore help. Stop thinking that everyone owes you just because you banked favors in advance. True friends don't need paying back. Yes, that goes both ways.

It's time to say no! You can't keep helping people and neglecting yourself. You are the most important person in the world. Put yourself first and the rest will follow. My mother is taking care or my sister's five children because she can't stay out of jail. As long as I could remember she has been taking care of everyone but herself. She can't get those girls to clean up for nothing. Nobody has time to cut her yard and take her where she needs to go. However, they are so quick to ask her to cook a meal for them. I told her she needs to cut the string and tell all of them to do it themselves. People only do what you let them do. Just tell them no!

Sorry that life's like that for you. The simple answer to your question is that you have a deep-rooted belief that your rights and needs don't matter. This is a problem for many people. My solution is to find yourself a good pychotherapist and heal whatever the root of the wound. Life is too short to live that way - you deserve better.

first of all u must know that/...

all people will not be in the same manner in which u r..

so.. if u r honest in ur helping nature they must respond in positive way.if they r nor there may be prob with u..which is not known to u yet..otherwise ..they r not right persons to get help from others...

all people are not feel responsibe for others..very few ppl do this.u have that character..but do not expect from others..by feeling that u did something ...then there will be no honest in ur actions..

try to stay away from the people who do not feel reponsible towards u...towards society..

try to differentiate the situations..

all the best

well you need to get your priorities straight before you go and give everything you have to other people. its a good thing your hellping but at the same time its bringing u down. you gotta let those people you know and are always doing favos for that your tired of doing things for them and not getting the same in return. if you dont say your feelings they will just bottle up and youll flip & noone will know why

poor you. here at yahoo answers, there are people willing to listen to you.

i also have a friend like you. almost everybody comes to her for advice when they have problems. and she complains to me that when she's the one who needs their help, nobody is available. i told her and i am telling you now, because you've got lots to give to others and they have lots going in their lives, they forget that you have problems too. life is not just fair.

as i've said, here at yahoo answers, i at least am willing to help you. please don't stop helping others because that's what you are good at.

as long as you haven't learnt to say 'no' you'll be everyone's bellboy.

however the moment you learn to say a simple 'no' you'll be free. take a white sheet of paper, start from top left corner. and write:

'NO', 'NO',........until the page is full. then it will be a lot easier.

I assume your fairly young, when I was young and even still now I at times I find myself in that situation again myself. i finally learned the magic word and it will help you as well. NO , NO . HELL NO AND WALK AWAY.