Should I have a welfare check on my son?

Here is the issue:

I've seen good kids come from good homes.

I've seen bad kids come from bad homes.

I've also seen bad kids come from good homes.

And I"ve seen good kids come from bad homes.

There may be occasional correlations between the environment and the kid, but rarely are they predictable. As a parent, I know exactly what you're saying and how you worry about him. And the frustration that there is not a thing you can do about it. Lots of people (as many adults as kids) blame everything in the entire world except themselves for what happens. Some wise up eventually while others don't, and become failures throughout most of their lives. Again, not a thing you can do about it.

It's common these days for people to think that children are programmable robots that will turn out exactly a certain way if you just do certain things, but they overlook the fact that every child is born with his own personality.

Out of 4 kids, I've had one that turned out the same as yours. Our door is always open for him to come back, but the rules do take priority. None of the other three have had any problem with it, so the conditions still stand. Hopefully he'll pull his head out of his rectum one day and get a view of the world around him, and not as he wants it to be. Still waiting.

Just to let you know that you're not alone, and also that you're not as wrong as the child psychologists today would have you believe.

A Welfare check will not do much. If you show authority and show he does not run the house but YOU do, he'll learn to respect you. Bottom line, you're doing the right thing

It's stay under a roof but listen to you or go to the world and find his own roof.

It's his choice

We cannot do anything about your runaway son. A welfare check would be useless. At most we would drag him kicking and screaming to your door step and then let him go and watch him run away again. If it's not your parenting that's fouled up, he probably has a developmental disability.

Unless he's a danger to himself (suicide) or a danger to others, we cannot do anything for him.

If he was my Son ~ he would be going to a Military Boot Camp type of school, to try to save him while there is a chance!!

bottom line,he hates you for getting rid of the father he knew.regardless of how his father was or is.it was his period and he blames you for taking it away.this is typical teen behavior.there must not have been a responsible male figure in his life either.being a single dad who has raised 3 kids on my own. i can tell you this was the very reason i kept their drunken drug addict mother in their life.for that reason alone.now they made up there own mind and all of them have done stupid things that i handled here at home without the police ever being involved.this is part of life falling down.you just have to be there to pick them up.good luck!

depending on the state u can giv up your parentral rights, and give him up to the state. why should u get a welfare check if he's not there