He always complains what do I do?

It sounds to me like counseling may be a good idea, also... make sure you don't think you are the reason for him being miserable. Maybe he feels bad about himself so he doesn't want a social life.

It sounds liek you give him the world, but he doesn't want to help keep it up at all.

Make him appreciate you, the things you do... and everythign else... 9 years is a logn time to get comfortable and think that nothing will ever change.

Personally... I'd talk to him about seeking counseling together to find the root of his/yours/both of your family life problems.

Hope I helped!

Stop making his dinner, stop waiting on him, tell him you don't want to hear his moaning after a hard day's work because it is a real drag.Tell him that if his life is so awful perhaps he would be happier somewhere else. It sounds as if he's suffering from depression but he needs to take the initiative and see a doctor, if this is the case.If you're not happy with him smoking in the house tell him to take it outside. You don't deserve all this misery.

what i can say to you....i really feel very upset for you.it's a life that relationship bound by a couples.there is happiness is sorrow. your husband really become very lazy...such this condition ppl become sick sooner. he is your lifemate you don't let him down.let him realize we have a excellent future to be move on. try use some technique give him pleasure as he want keep silen your self when he rude or angry don't reply anything at all. few days agree with him to let him come back to normal life style. his life style is really abnormal.invite some yours intimate friends to your house get some time together. express some special word thats how you proud about him how much you care about him. don't say anything wrong about him. and better go together yours another friends house he will observe theire lilfstyle . he may compare with his condition. this technique can be work and i promise you there will be posetive consequence come sooner to your life...

friend i have no more any special words to inspiare you...i really feel bad about you family condition.

i wish you all the best.....and pray to God that ur husband come back as you want in normal life...

thanks

saif .....

OK - i see too main issues.

most people don't need that much sleep

2) and aren't that tired if they get that much sleep.

So i recommend finding a sleep clinic or nearby doctor that specializes in sleep problems. ( he may have sleep apnea, for instance). get him analyzed, diagnosed, etc.

THEN, after fixing that, if the behavioral problems continue, either go to marital counseling with him, or counseling without him to decide what YOU value most.

but you really need to check on the sleep disturbances thing, cause it might fix almost everything else.

He needs to see a doctor. He may be suffering from a low-grade depression, may have sleep apnea, or any number of medical conditions. Once you rule those things out, then consider moving on.

Sounds like your guy is experiencing some serious depression. Get him into his Dr's for a checkup. If it's not depression, dump his sorry behind.

he def needs excercise and he sounds very emotional so always keep that in mind. Talk to him about it but do so in the nicest way possible. communication is key

hes a depressant. i would schedule him an appointment to see a doctor.if hes never happy about anything..that could be a sign that he needs professional help.

tell him you arent happy with the way thing are going.. that will make him stand at attention to listen to what u have to say. tell him what will make you happy. and for yourself its not going to change over night but if he starts to make an effort thats good enough.. for now

leave him.. i have one of those ( not that bad-but close) i plan to be out by the end of june