Please Help me? I need to calm down in my head, i am very stressed?

WOW i don't like that old man already!!!

you need to tell your husband to tell him something or YOU tell the dad off yourself!! that is much your house at it is your husbands.. he SHOULDN'T be there.. you are right you are newlyweds with a baby on the way what is that man thinking??? i suggest that when he is mean to you, fight back and don't stay quiet and set him straight if he feels unwanted oh well! he IS unwanted so please tell your husband to let him go... and if your husband says something to you tell him that you can't continue living like this i hope your husband doens't take his dad's side because yeah that is his father but he can't be intruding in your home that way especially being that small of a house. yeah it would be different if it were a big home but ONE BEDROOM!? so no! be strong and set your father in law straight like i said that is your home too you deserve to be enjoying your pregnancy! i know its tough working full time i'm 8 month pregnant myself and work full time you need all the rest you can get you dont need that man nagging at you! TELL HIM OFF!!! good luck

When it comes to this situation you all three need to sit down and say exactly what you did in the end of your question. That there is not enough room for all of you in this place, that you are newly weds and deserve to have this time to be that, that you respect the fact that he is your fil but that you need to be a husband wife and baby family right now that you both deserve the chance to have what he had once with his wife! Don't take a no for an answer tell him that you both love him and care about him but you were expecting this to be a visit not a move in forever and that your not comfortable with the situation and that him living there is putting stress on you and the baby and tell him that the extra stress is very very dangerous for his unborn grandchild!! Good luck be straightforward and don't let his temper tantrums get through to you chances are they are away of avoiding the situation.

I hate to read about you being so stressed - this should be a happy time in your life! That's no environment to bring up a child (or sustain a new marriage)

It seems that while your husband is on your side he is not 100% backing you up. FIL needs some tough love and hubby should step up to the plate and NOT BACK DOWN. FIL needs to hear - from his son - that he is loved and welcome to visit but right now the two of you want to enjoy 1) being newlyweds, 2) being pregnant, and then 3) being new parents ON YOUR OWN.

If FIL throws a tantrum he needs to still hear that tough love: "dad, we love you but you can't live here now. we hope that once your grandchild is born that you will come visit". Hopefully, sooner rather than later, he will come around.

It's your house, your life... tell hubby to man up! Good luck :)

Wow. Ok so i think that you need to sit down with hubbie and let him know how much this is bothering you and both of you come to a conclusion of how to get him out. You are preggo and will have enough to deal with. I couldnt imagine going thru this especially as a newly wed or in a 1 bedroom. It would have been a little diff senario if you had an extra room. I think hubbie needs to understand that this isnt something that was dicussed and you space was just invaded. Tell hubbie point blank his dad needs to go so you can get ready mentally and physically for your baby....

I wish you the best of luck. I am pregnant as well and When someone visits for a little too long i get a bit fustrated so i can only imagine how you feel.

I know this is harsh but I would tell my hubby that it is either you or his dad and that he has to make a choice. Give him a deadline such as the end of the month to help his father with his living situation. Tell your hubby that you are too stressed and the doctor said it isn't good for the baby. You have to stick to your guns. If he doesn't get the FIL out by the deadline, pack your bags and move to your moms. I know this isn't what you want to do but if you have already talked to your hubby about it and he hasn't done anything this is what you have to do. I am sure your hubby will come to his senses even if you have to move out for a few days. Believe me FIL will be gone.

oh my god too much to read. I didn't read everthing but all I can say is calm down, don't stress.

EDIT: Ok, I read everything. You definitely need to make your FIL LEAVE.. i mean, you both will be stressed with the new baby and then your FIL?? no you definitely need to talk to him.