If a guy on your first date wants to impress you and take you to a post restaurant?

You are shallow if you judge people by their looks and not their personality.

He is not good in managing money.He spent more than what he earned. Many people break up because of money matter like debt. The relationship would not last if he don't change.

This is funny..:)

Well, I would just tell the guy that it is a pleasure

that we split the bill..no problem .I do not really mind

going on dutch or give the guys treats at times..

We take turns or he pays the meal and I get the movie tickets..something like that.

Anyway, I seldom choose posh places for meals so treating the guys is not a super big deal to me.So long as we have a good time of fellowship..that's more important.:)

Hmmm... I would not go out with him again if the date involves spending money (I guess that rules out most dates!).

Maybe I would give him a chance if he makes (and I mean actually cooking and planning) a nice park picnic for me, or if we go out with a bunch of friends. And he would have to work really hard to gain back my confidence.

It seems to me that he has poor judgment regarding money, and that is a sign he might be careless on some other aspects. Looks and sense of humor don't make up for good judgment.

Well, in my opinion I would still go out with him again since he makes you laugh and you seem to really like him. It may have been a mistake of his that he didn't have enough money to cover the both of you, and perhaps he should have been more prepared if he wanted to impress you, but his feelings of just wanting to impress you should show you how much he likes you! Give him another chance. :)

I might give him another chance if I really liked him, but I would still be upset because he wasn't prepared and it *would* leave a bad impression for the 1st date...

You are 26 not 16. From what you say he sounds like a great guy, don't over analyze it.

That's "posh" restaurant, and if he made an "oops" and couldn't cover the check I could probably forgive...however most places take credit cards and the guys I date are well old enough to have established credit. ☺

Where are all the feminists, indignantly maintaining that it's sexist to expect the man to pay for the first date? Or are all feminists undercover on first dates? LOL

If you had an otherwise good vibe with him, let him know that if he takes you out in the future he needs to plan something he can afford.

If it happens again, use your money for the cab home and leave him with the dishes.

If this guy asked you out on the date and took it upon himself to choose where you both would eat then it should have been up to him to pay for the meal unless he asked you before hand to chip in...and no i wouldn't go out with him again..if he can't afford to pay for your meal what's that telling you?