how do i ensure i stay angry so i can confront my husband?

Poor guy is out with his boss, leave him alone and quit nagging, i feel sorry for him already. I go play tennis with my boss and friends all the time, after the match a good beer feels good. They day he comes home with lipstick where it shouldnt be is the day you should scream and yell. Ill tell you something if my wife was like that, she'd be out the door and there would be another one in line. And you put normally, so if he would have been home at 9, would be you be kicking and screaming, quit being so controlling and get some friends so you could have soemthing to do instead of looking at the clock. How old is he 5?

Anger won't help. If you scream and accuse, it'll only make it worse. I understand you're angry, but instead of accusing and inflaming the situation, you'll probably get better results if you sit him down for a calm talk and tell him how much it hurts to be left in the dark and be stuck at home worrying about whether or not he was upside down in a ditch somewhere. I've had the exact conversation with my husband ( he was just out playing raquetball with his b/f, but I didn't know where he was and started calling hospitals after he was over four hours late). He's never done it again. Anger only makes people defensive and angry and you'll go around and around instead of working it out. Write down what bothered you and how you felt so you can remember everything you wanted to bring up, but approach him gently. Good luck!

Remembering the issues is different from staying angry for an energy force. You have only a certain number of seconds on this earth and they are non-renewable. Keep that in mind and ask more questions than sending volleys. What was going on at work? Why does he think his actions don't hurt or affect the family? Does he have deeper issues he feels he cannot talk about? There is more here than some beers with the boss.

You will find no benefits in arguing while angry. It is always best to calm down first. This way nothing gets said that you won't be able to take back later. Was what he did inconsiderate? You're damn right it was. That doesn't change the fact that it is done and over with and should be handled in a responsible manner. Most of the time, the things that pop into our mind when we are angry are not the best things to say at all.

I ask myself inreading this, Why?

Why would you want to be mad still?

Why would you WANT to argue with him?

Why would you allow the hurt to continue to build up inside yourself?

I understand and agree that his behavior was improper without any doubt. He should have at least called you to inform you od what was going on, and he should not have gotten drunk with his boss. That is always a bad thing to do as far as holding down a job. Drink with the boss, don't get drunk.

You need to remember that the most importantant thing in any relationship, just after honesty, is communication!!

You aren't communicating if you are argueing, you are fighting!! He won't want to listen, and you won't want to hear his "excuse".

If you talk calmly with him, and not have any undertones of accussing him of doing something wrong, he will be more likely to listen to what you have to say. If you approach him looking for a fight, and an arguement, that is what you will get.

Be calm, express your thoughts and feelings completely, and even write them down if you need to. Just be calm when talking to him. He will really be willing to talk with you and listen to you if you are calm.

Again I admit fully he was irresponsible and very wrong with his behaviors, but don't add fuel to the fire by fighting/argueing back with him. It will only cause a heartache on top of the heartache you are already facing.

I think you are asking the wrong question. Getting uncontrollably mad over this and yelling at him like a banshee isn't going to help things. Relax, DON'T STAY ANGRY, and tell him that you were worried and would like him to call in the future if he is going to be late so that you will not be worried. You will get allot more accomplished being rational with him than you will staying angry. Who wants to be an angry person anyway?

It's probably better to let your self cool down. Your right, it was very inconsiderate of him not to let you know where he was, but you should still confront him about it with a cool head. Why don't you write down what you are thinking, and feeling right now, so you can explain it to him, but try to do it in a calm way, otherwise he wont even want to listen, if you're just raving at him.

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Why put yourself through the turmoil of holding that anger inside you? You were angry (rightly so), but why let that eat you alive? Why can't you just have a normal, civilized conversation - just explain that you were mad, but now you are hurting because he didn't communicate with you. It just sounds like you have a messed up relationship if you feel you need to ensure you stay angry just so you can talk to your husband. Can't you just talk with him calmly and tell him how you feel?

you wouldn't want to be angry when you confront him...are you unsure of how you feel? If not you should be able to tell him what's bothering you without being mad. You can speak in a serious tone and it will have the same effect.