deal with 2 year old???

My daughter just turned two and does the exact same thing with the facial features! LOL To anyone who will listen (strangers and friends alike), she will begin by silently pointing to her nose until the person acknowledges this ("yes, that's your nose"), and then move on to other facial body parts. She only does the eye-poking thing with her father and me, though, and certain close friends of the family. Whenever she does that, we just gently take her hands and say "be gentle." Toddlers don't know how rough is too rough, so it's up to us to teach them. And we didn't just have to tell her one time, either. Toddlers need lots of repetition b/c they forget--they're little! So each time she does something that's rough, whether it be poking me in the eye, or "tapping" me with her hand (meaning she's actually slapping me but not meaning to!), we always say, "No, Bethany, be gentle with Mommy (or Daddy)." And then we take her hand and show her the gentle way to do it. The main thing you've got to do (and I say this out of experience b/c I've done it too, out of frustration) is to stop yelling. You have to. Yelling does not accomplish anything, and in fact, it only incites your daughter to more violent behavior. The more rebellious or disobedient she becomes, the calmer you must be. As I said, I know b/c I've lost control of my voice more than once with my daughter, and it only made us both more upset. I know it's hard to remain calm when your child is really misbehaving and doing something you don't want her to do, but yelling (as I'm sure you know by now) does not help. Instead, use the calmest voice you can, but FIRMLY, tell her what you would like her to do. When she climbs on top of her baby sister, gently remove her, get on her level, look her in the eye, and say "No. Do not climb on your sister. She is a baby. You be gentle with Sissy (or however she refers to her)." And like I said, you will probably have to give her that reminder several, several times before she gets it. BUT--once you can tell for sure that she does "get it", and then she does it again just to test you, tell her "if you disobey Mommy again, you will get a spanking." If she does do it again, then follow thru and give her a swat on the leg and say, "Mommy said no." This is all without yelling. This is what we practice with our daughter in most situations of disobedience and while we are far from having the perfectly obedient child, we can tell we're making progress and that she knows what the limits are. Be consistent--determine what your consequences for her will be, tell her what they will be, and then if she disobeys, follow thru. She will get it eventually. Hope this helps. :)

Don't kiss her "booboo" when you give her a spanking.

You need to decide for yourself what is going to be OK behavior from her and what is not. Be very clear in your own mind where that line is, and when she crosses that line be swift with your corporal punishment. I try not to yell when spanking. If my toddler is touching something she should not, then I swat her hand HARD and say NO, Don't Touch. It should be hard enough to really get her attention, but not so hard that it truly causes too much pain.

For laying on her sister, I would say Get Off! and then spank the upper thigh (bare skin, never on the diaper) maybe 3 times. If she keeps doing it, then perhaps she needs a stronger spanking in order for the punishment to be memorable enough.

I have a time out area (which is where ever you want it). It's great because my children know where it is and if they cry i just let them cry. I tell them to sit there for how old they are and since she is 2 and a half i would prob. tell her to sit there for 3 min. and if she leaves the time starts all over. Afterward i bend down( so im about the same height of my child) and i ask them what they did wrong and have them say sorry and then give them and hug and kiss.

hope this helps.. good luck.. dont give up

Attention, The 2 1/2 year might be acting out to get your attention, try spending some one on one time alone with her while daddy or nanny take the baby. Only yell when required, they tune you out otherwise. Try the naughty chair facing the corner with no toys or talking.

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