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Bridal Shower for a destination wedding??

I have been reading on the knot.com that if you have a destination wedding than you forfeit a wedding shower. Now here is my question. I invited over 200 people to my wedding. About 65 are coming mostly close friends and a few family members. Alot of my family on both of our sides cannot make it due to small children and extra expenses which is totally understandable. But they keep asking about a party im having here. Would it be appropriate to still have a bridal shower and then tell the ones who are coming to the wedding not to worry about a gift? I still want to have something to include the ones who cannot come etc. but I don't want to seem like a gift grubber, I just want the people who can;t make it to still feel included in the festivities. Any advice. (p.s. I am not throwing an extra party for all those who cant attend bc thanksgiving is the following week and i will see them all then) Bridal shower or no?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Why not hold a 2nd reception like party after you've returned from your honeymoon? Nothing as elaborate as a full scale reception, but rent out a banquet hall and have a party to celebrate your wedding for those who couldn't make it to the real thing. A shower is held strictly for bringing gifts. An "after party reception" would be enjoyed by all and is done all the time. Congratulations and best wishes!

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    5 years ago

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    I have been reading on the knot.com that if you have a destination wedding than you forfeit a wedding shower. Now here is my question. I invited over 200 people to my wedding. About 65 are coming mostly close friends and a few family members. Alot of my family on both of our sides cannot make it...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    A bridal shower is considered appropriate with destination weddings. If you read any of the major etiquette books, including Miss Manners, they are fine to have.

    The problem lies in inviting guests that haven't been invited to your wedding. If your guests have been invited and can't make it for whatever reason, then it is fine to include them in a shower.

    A celebration party after you come home is very often done for destination weddings.

    Just like your family and friends said, they want to be part of your day and offer their congratulations, even if they couldn't make the wedding. This is why so many couples have a party after they return home.

    Since you are seeing everyone for Thanksgiving, it is up to you what you want to do. You may be able to have Thanksgiving and a party done the day before or after if you would like.

    Just seeing you for Thanksgiving may not be enough for some of your family. Either a post celebration or a shower (or both) is fine.

    Good luck with what ever you decide.

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    5 years ago

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    It does seem odd to have a bridal shower especially if you feel weird about it. Why don't you have a (tasteful) hens/bachorlarette party to invite those who won't be able to make your wedding. They way they can feel like they are a part of your wedding with out anyone thinking "she's only invited us for the gift". By the way I have never received an invite and thought to myself "I'm only invited so they get a gift from me". If I was invited to your shower knowing I could not go the wedding, I'd be pleased that I was thought of but would rather the fun and games of a hens party.

  • 1 decade ago

    I had a destination wedding (Las Vegas) and my in-laws paid for a reception type dinner which followed the ceremony.. We also had and paid for ourselves a reception to include friends/family that could not attend the wedding about a month after the wedding. So, we did have a bridal shower...

    Our friends had a destination wedding and had a "gift card" shower from family/friends. Since they were NOT having an at-home reception.... I would do what you are comfortable with and can afford...

    Good luck

  • Ha
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I would still throw a shower and just put on the invitation something like bring just yourself no gifts expected or something so they know but you will prob still get gifts

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  • Just Q
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Have the shower. You would if the wedding was in your city. Why not now?

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