Pregnant and father in law problems.?

Asking him to leave will cause issues between you and your husband, but if your father in law is so miserable during his stay there he may very well leave on his own.

Refuse to do anything for him. Give him as much hell as he gives you.

I don't think people realize that the cultural issue here is so strong that you simply cannot remove him from your home and they also don't understand your husband making him leave.

Good luck!

You have got to get your hubby on your side. How long is he planning to stay - With a 1 bdroom apt. where are you going to put the baby? Ask your hubby this question. If nothing else insist that you find a bigger apt where he can have his own room. Otherwise I would come home from work and go straight to my room and stay there. Make you a sandwich and live in your bedroom for a while - maybe then your in law will get the idea that he isn't wanted. Also you say you work full time so tell your hubby that unless you are allowed to make some decisions then he obviously doesn't need your income. So start keeping your money separate

ok thats not cool, on your husbands part. He is going to be a father now, and he should put his budding family first. Why cant his dad go out and find a place to live? does he really feel its neccesary to live with his sons family in a one bedroom apt? where are you going to put the baby? and his dad couldnt legally ask him to leave until he was 18, so thats stupid. Tell him he needs to man up and ask him to find another place, give him a month to do it. I understand its cultural, but this is america and everyone has mixed cultures. Maybe if his dad was an invalid, who couldnt help himself, but was respectful and kind and helpful as much as he could be. This guy sounds like a freeloader and your husband needs to step up and tell him he has a month to leave- go. If hes got financial problems, well its not that hard to get a job. How disrespecful for him to treat you like his own personal slave- newsflash- you arent his wife, you dont have to do his laundry and clean up his messes. You should lay down the law as the woman of the house about that- get him his own hamper and put all his disugsting clothes in it.....when they start stinking, hell start washing. Put a lock on the dishes...he can only use what hes dirtied and hell clean them, if he has nothing else.

This situation upsets me because my dad recently lost his apartment and moved back in with my mom and acts the same way. I went over to visit my mom the other day and he said i was getting fat and that i wasnt technically eating for two. i was like seriously, **** you. Im seven months pregnant...and hes the same way, disrespectful and crude. This is YOUR apartment, and cultrual or not..you DONT have to take it. Find another place to live if your husband wont comply!!!! good luck!!

OK u don't want 2 leave him for this reason that's good but how about scaring him go 2 Ur parents house for a few days i bet he will changes his mind real fast or maybe it this mans not going 2 leave then try getting a bigger house or apartment or something else i would do is bring home the paper and start circling apartments and leave them on the couch coffee table dinning room table leave little hints like that around the apartment and start asking 4 rent and food money

Your husband probably can not kick his own father out, which leaves the work to you. Is this man worth it if it means your marriage is this strained? Do you think your marriage will last if your husband chooses his dad over you?

I'll give you this, it's the mom's culture, not the dad's, that rules in the house. Who raises the kids and teaches them about the world? It's your home, he's an intruder and not helpful. Be the woman (I do mean that seriously) and do what you need to do to protect your family.

Meanwhile your husband needs to become a man and stand up for his wife and himself!

WHY is he there, does he need a job, put ads for work in front of im. Tell husband to help him get on his feet. ALSO most apartments have laws on how many can live in small place. With baby coming this could be a violation big time. Culture or not he is harming your health and babys health. ASK the old cougar why is he mean and tell him he is harming his grandchild. Also when delivery comes be sure he is banned from the area, you can have this done ahead of time. Your DR needs to know about this extra stress, it will effect your bloodpressure and the baby. TELL your hudsband this. *mamatx

i am so sorry that you are going through this, sounds like maybe you and your husband need to start doing some things together after work, maybe meet for dinner somewhere or a movie date..

if its at all possible in the apartment complex that you live in maybe you can find out if there is a bigger apartment that you can move it to.. so that your FIL has a room of his own, then i would put a tv in there for him, and get your life back..

i can see where you husband is coming from but he should be more supportive of you and your feelings.. maybe you can write your FIL a note every morning giving him little jobs to do

i do understand your husbands point but you should come first(well really your baby) the stress is really un needed right now really at any point in life. Tell your husband that yes yoou do understand but this arrangement wont work and dad needs to find a place of his own. one bedroom is not enough room for two people and a grown man plus a baby on the way. your husband should understand this. if not i hate to say this but you will have to move forward because the stress is not good for your baby. good luck sweetie

Wow!

Well, you may need to remind your husband that when you marry you become ONE...he is no longer committed to his parents...he is committed to ONE person and that is YOU!

Your husband should be on the lookout to what is best for you and him, and try talking with you husband about you and your husband stitting down to talk with the dad.

If you can express how you feel, and the dad express how he feels you husband can find a way to help both of you!

But over all...........if you are not respected in your own home..THERE IS A PROBLEM that your husband needs to deal with RIGHT NOW!

it sounds like maybe your husband does not have enough respect for you if your husband allows your dad to talk to you the way that he does!

first of all i'd think about getting a bigger place! (if you can) babies take up a lot of room! Second of all if your husband won't talk to him, then you do it. He is your father in law. Maybe you'll get really lucky and you'll offend him and he will leave! lol. Seriously if he's acting like that now, talking to him can't make things any worse.