how do you help somebody who doesnt want help?

This is a hard situation u r in.Have u suggested AA to him and that you would go with him for support.I assume u would go as u seem to be a good friend to stand by and have tried to help.If he has family they need to be told and they may help

you as well.I feel for you.U can message back to me and if u want some 1 to talk to i would listen if u like.My friends always say im easy to talk to and should have been a counsellor.Unfortunately not the worlds brainest.

Take Care.

Regards Jody.

There is nothing you can do. He has to get to the point when he realises he does in fact need help. Until then just try to stand by him the best you can. It may be frustrating as when someone has a problem your first thought is to fix it. What we come to learn is that not everything can be fixed and maybe just listening and being supportive can help.

Have you tried an intervention with his friends that do care. Maybe if he sees concern and people caring about him, it will probbaly change him. But you cant tell him hes going to an intervention, tell him hes going to a "party" or a "get-together". When he gets there he'll see the people that care about him. Just like the A&E show "Intervention", he just wont be in front of millions of people.

until an addict of any form truly recognise there problem then i'm afraid there is nothing that you can do , but the fact is from what you are saying that you are partly getting through to him , and that is part of the battle keep trying , contact the AA

helpline who may have better suggestions in advising

good luck to a good person

Ignore whizkid! He's talking rubbish!

Your a good friend but you wont be able to do anything except be there for your friend in times of need.

But you must look after your own life at he same time!

Good luck for you and your friend

change first starts with the self. put the information/resources in front of him, but then move on. there is nothing you can do more than that.

you need to move on with your own life, because toxic friends will only bring YOU down.

I don't know if it will work for your friend, but some one took movies of me when I was really drunk and making an *** of myself. It didn't cure me on the spot, but it got me to start taking inventory of of how stupid I looked in those movies.

You can't. I am afraid some people have to hit rock bottom before they fully realise and/or accept help.

i know it sounds horrible but unless someone wants help and starts to help themselves, there is not a lot you can do.

the best thing you can do for your frind is be there for him, be ready to talk to him about his problems whenever he needs you. remember that it might be frustrating and hurtful watching your friend doing things you know are bad for him, but ultimately it is his life and his choices. you just have to be ready to be there for him when he needs it.

http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/info2/a/aa050797.ht...

those webistes have information on alcoholism that might be helpful to you both.

good luck :)

i think if you look after your self and keep letting him know that you wont to help and when hes ready you will be there ready to help good luck