Forgiveness is Key.. Right?

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My boyfriend and I were dating for 2.5 years, but for about a year we'd been on the rocks.. Turns out it was due to the fact that he had severe depression that he found out about after he finally went to the psychologist when we broke up. A few days later, I stupidly pursued a "semi-kinda" relationship with a guy friend who my ex had warned me about.. and my ex didn't take that too kindly, and I had to hear about it for a while. A few months later I find out that he had begun hooking up with his ex, who had been the root of his depression in the first place.
Both his and my "flings" are over and we're talking about getting back together.. however I'm finding it hard to forgive him, as I'm sure he's finding it hard to forgive me. 

Any suggestions on how to move forward without looking back?

justme · Accepted Answer

You guys are on an even playing field here so it's a lot easier than normal. You were broken up and you both got with someone else, and have since ended it. There's no point in bringing up "who did what" because you did the same exact thing. If he's feeling differently about life and is on medication or still receiving help, it could work out. However you should make sure something has changed since the first time around. Otherwise you’ll be right back where you were.

TG · Answer

It takes time. If you both agree that you want to move forward together and stop hurting each other, then you can. It may always be somewhat of an issue, but time heals all wounds and you can make it work. God bless and good luck! I hope everything works out for you two.

Anonymous · Answer

you can forgive and but never forget.  i have forgiven my man  sooooooooooo many times.....we are on 5 years......he got someone pregnant.....lots to tell, but we have forgiven each other for OUR faults (of course, i had some too) but even today and last night, talked of breaking up. We just bought a house and everything.  girl, it will never go away.  let go while you can before you get in too deep like i did.

p.hefner · Answer

that's a tough one but i guess i can b done! start trying to make new and even more memorable ones that overshadow what you've both been through that's the only way i can see me being able 2 forget the fast

oldknowitall · Answer

If you don't look back, you have learned nothing.  Completely pass this situation by and move on with your life.  You deserve better.

? · Answer

its not gonna happen over night you both have to trust each other again. Just hang out as friends for a while and see what happens and be there for him.

Deanna =] · Answer

FORGIVING what? it's not like you guys were dating when you had a semi fling with other people. this is dumb to not even except it.

~Black Butterfly~ · Answer

you can forgive, but never forget. things like this are never easy to get over, but i say jus step back in inch by inch. or say freak it and move on.

showpony · Answer

you two weren't together when you hooked up with other people, so you should just get over it and move on, if you can't then you should not be together.

yaknow.. · Answer

just talk about how all of that is in the past now and you are there for him now. 


good luck :)

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