Divorce? Will I get screwed filing?

He'll get screwed not you.

If you don't work, he'll have to pay you alimony and child support. Plus he will have to split all assets, including the house.

He is completely afraid of losing money. He is also disrespecting your intelligence by lying to you and telling you otherwise. Even if you didn't know it's not like you can't find out.

also, I'd contact a divorce lawyer and tell them that you need language in the divorce document that he pays for the lawyers.

I just got divorced so I know the drill.

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The only people that benifit from divorce are the attorney's. Tell him you want to go into arbitration and settle your differences that way. But understand that he will show a lot of anger towards this becouse it will cost him big, 25% for 1 child and 3% for each one more. You also split everything in half. Since you didn't work and he supported you he will have to pay maitainace for a certain amount of time. The guy is the one that gets screwed in the beginning but the woman who gets screwed in the long run, you will have to raise these children on your own, the father doesn't have to deal with all the drama of children on a day to day basis and the father will have nothing but fun with them since he sees them for short periods of time. The courts and attorney's love using the children to manipulate the parents and they will profit handsomely from this also. They will tell you that your crazy to go to an arbitrator or just work out the terms yourself becouse it is all about making money to them. But IL law is plain and simple, almost every case whether it goes to trial or not will be the same deal. Just don't use the children and understand his anger that will subside over time. Attorneys love pitting couples against each other, mo money, thats all it is about to those blood suckers, even thought they will try to act like a freind to you. An arbitrator will explain the laws and how it will work. Bend over backwards for him in the beginning and give him all the time with his children that he wants. The financial part sucks for the man, bottom line, now not only does 33% of his money go for income tax on top of property and sales tax, but now up to 30% more will go to a person who he has lost respect for and wants nothing to do with, that is what divorce does.

My experience is a little different. I made the money and my ex had a good job when we got married but then took a layoff and sat on his butt for over a year. Everything was in mine name because his credit was bad. I filed for divorce. He asked for alimony among a lot of other things. Our divorce last three years. Everything was fair game because we were married. But he ended up paying me money for bills and other things. So it could go either way. But most likely he will have to pay you something so that you can get on your feet.

I live in Texas so my answer might not apply. If you go in to meet with a divorce attorney they can tell you most of the answers to your questions, many will do a free 30 minute consultation too.

In Texas anything obtained during marriage (the house, cars, debt, etc) is community property, even if he makes more, or if he is the only one working. Unless that is, there is a pre-nup. In Texas you have to be married 10 years (I think) to get allimony (maybe you could stick it out a couple more years to really stick it to him lol jk) so you might not get that.

Go have a consultation with a divorce lawyer and make sure you do it before your husband does. You will get screwed if he does it first and locks down everything. Your lawyer can advice you on what you need to do.

Yes, this where the the lawyers step in and love it, cause in the end they will get most of the money in the end. Tell her to give the guy 50% custody and no child support will be paid. The guy will freak out (cause he really don't want those kids hanging around and cramping his style with the new hotties he is going to bop). There is no reason for her to have custody and have to raise his kids on her own. Believe me this tatic works for the best in the end.

Hon, look in the phone book for a lawyer who advertises your first consult free (or for a minor fee).

Discuss the details with him/her, and get the best advice you can.

I think your husband is wrong, bet a lawyer will know far more about the laws. Good luck!

GET A GOOD LAWYER. It is almost impossible to get "screwed" unless you are stupid, uneducated, impatient, immature, or very gullible.

This is what lawyers are for - to protect the innocent.

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RE :Divorce? Will I get screwed filing?

I'm in Illinois and I want to divorce my husband. I am a stay at home Mom. We have one child. I do NOT work. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We bought our house and our 2 cars AFTER we got married. He is still paying for the cars and the house. Everything is in HIS name only. He makes $100K a year, but has bad credit. He doesn't think that the money he makes is both "ours" and witholds it from me. I'm divorcing him due to him not respecting me, the marriage, and among other problems. Will I get screwed over if I filed for divorce? He keeps saying that I will if I do, I won't end up with much of nothing. I just want my car, child support, and short term alimony. Please do not advise me to work on the marriage, we tried, and it just didn't work. I think he's afraid that he just may have to cough up some dough. How did you prepare for divorce? Experienced answers only. Thanks.

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