Pregnant, stress...HELP?

I think you're right about staying where you are for now. There will be other opportunities to buy a home. Your baby is going to be costing you extra money as well. Diapers, toys, clothes, food...the list goes on and on. This added stress along with your pregnancy, and right after the baby comes is ridiculous. As far as the party, tell him to

go for a while by himself, because as you told him...you don't feel comfortable in that atmosphere right now for the baby's sake. I don't think it's right for him to ask you again whether the friend begged or not, especially if you two had already decided that you weren't going to go.

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First of all having a baby is stressful enough. You don't need to be buying a house (which you can't afford) and moving, and dealing with a new born. Your husband is not thinking about how hard it would be on you to move either before or right after the baby is born. After the baby is born, if you breast feed, you need to pretty much just take it easy for 3 months and feed and care for the baby. Your hormones are running high right now and will be for a few months after the baby is born. Men don't think of these things. You have to do the thinking for him. You tell him that you will not even think about buying a house until the baby is a year old and your back working again. You tell him that emotionally, and physically it takes that long to get back to normal after giving birth for a woman. A man can do what ever he wants. He doesn't go through the mental and physical changes. So the answer is no to meeting with a banker. Secondly, you and he decided that you were not going to his friends party. You talked about it and decided it was not a good idea and you are sticking to your guns on the first decision. If he wants to go by himself then let him. Men don't have a clue as to what it feels like to be pregnant, how it feels to give birth, what your hormones are going through and how you will be feeling for the first three months after the birth. You have to let him know what your feelings are and you will have to inform him that because he is a man and will never experience these things he will just have to take your word for it and do what you feel comfortable doing. It is called being a responsible and caring husband and father. Stand up for yourself girl. You had better set things straight now because he will never think of your problems if you don't make him.

Don't go to the party but don't keep him from going, just make sure he has his cell phone so you can reach him if you go into labor. Look at it from his veiwpoint, Condo is small. I don't know the square ft. Let your husband make the choice if he falls and you lose it all, he'll love you for believing in him, besides rentals are where it's at, (BTW, find a realestate agent to rent it out so you don't have to worry about any landlord stress.) and you might be able to buy a foreclosure and get what you want, find some and then negoite with the bank, believe they are called REO's and right now they are even cheaper then what you will see on the MLS. I say support your husband. Besides $600 isn't that much more, it just depends on how much money you have left over. You would cry if you heard my mortgage payment. If you can't afford a fix mortgage on your loan and the taxe and insurance based off his income only then now's not the time, but if you can, then your financial ready.

One night won't kill you to do something you don't want to do. You can live with going to your husband's friends birthday party for a couple of hours can't you ( you won't get any diseases), if you have to pee then squat, i'm also sure your husband would keep that dog off you, as for the people who will be drinking and smoking....it doesn't mean you are, why does it matter so much to you what other people will be doing and how would it affect you?? Don't be so selfish. Kind of sounds like your a major drama queen, no offense. As for the whole condo situation, you need to sit down and talk to your husband about this, explain to him how your feeling and also listen to what he has to say. It's not just what you want, it's for the whole family including the baby in the oven.

Make sure you think about your financial future more than ever with the addition of a new life into your household/lives. A big committment, go talk to the financial guy regarding your options and keep it real in that you ask questions, get the answers that are best for your family. Let him go to his friends party, he should understand if you do not wish to expose the baby to that kind of environment, tell him you will go hang out with a girlfriend for awhile. Pregnancy is a wonderful/stressful time in your life, you both need a bit of space from time to time no matter how close you are, Hope this helps, MILDRED SENT ME. Jamie

You need to put all the numbers on paper. Show your husband how you can not afford to move. Yes, our wants are hard to overcome but bankruptcy is harder. Place a pro and con list of what is more important. Be aware at the bank they will give you a high number of what you can afford. That is part of why America's housing market is in trouble.

Maybe you should compromise with your husband more. Why can he not go to the bday party? Let him go, but ask him to be respectful and be home at a decent hour. Communicate with him what you think is a decent hour.

The key here is that you BOTH own the condo and you BOTH have to sign the new loan papers. He can't do it without you, so just stand your ground and say no. Give him solid reasons as to why and say that the discussion is over.

You need to nip this behavior in the bud now before your family grows. Trust me, I didn't and it's taken us years to get our finances back to a reasonable state.

As far as the single friend thing, I think that's just because you are pregnant (fat and hormonal) and there are things that will bother you now that didn't before. You can't expect him to feel the same way as you do. Just tell him that next time he will have to go by himself. You will come to find that when you have your baby, that you won't be able to attend every function together.

Stay where you are....make your life easier. the house will come when you go back to work and afford the payments.Tell your husband to calm down and stop stressing you out. Put your foot down.He can`t do anything without you, trust me. My husband demanded a new boat last year, he wanted a loan. i wouldn`t sign...I guess he had to wait. But it shouldn`t get to that point.

Haha very good 10/10

There are women walking around pregnant and barefoot in third world countries this very minute wondering where their next meal is coming from.

I think you will survive this.