would you trust your husband...?

My husband wouldn't desire to run off for a weekend. We do everything as a family.So it wouldn't be a big deal here, we'd be doing it together with the kids.

I don't see what is soooo wrong with doing things as a family. We had discussed all of this prior to marriage, and agreed it in every ones benefit to save outings for family time. It has nothing to do with trust. When we were dating he took a trip to SF for a 49r's game. Then also a week trip to Arizona for a baseball game over 4th of July weekend...thats the only 2 time's anything has come up for him to go off for a few days...so I don't quite get the thumbs downs.

I think that is odd that your friend even had that thought... if there is no reason to NOT trust your husband why the heck wouldn't you? I mean it's the same as him trusting you with your son alone for several days. You both have your childs best interest at heart... the only way I could see this as valid is if your husband really is an EX husband who is like a child molester or something...

That is just a weird thing for your friend to say.

My initial reaction is that your friend wasn't necessarily wondering whether your husband loves and cares for your son enough. 2 years can be a tough age, and she might have been thinking it sounds overwhelming taking a 2-year-old by himself to a weekend tournament. Since mothers are often the primary caregivers in a family, I've seen many fathers (through no fault of anyone's) feel in-the-dark or nervous about the daily responsibilities of caring for a small child. It can also depend on the particular child and what phases he's going through at the moment. So, I would say, just because someone feels nervous sending a 2-year-old on a trip with his dad for the weekend, that doesn't mean the man isn't worth being married to, or isn't a decent responsible father. Also, it can be totally natural for a mother who's not used to it, to feel nervous about sending her kid off with ANYONE else, no matter how responsible she knows the person is.

That said, it's great that you do feel good about sending Ethan off with his daddy! About once a year my husband stays with our kids for a weekend while I go have some girl time. It's always such a refreshing little break!

Of course I would (and do) trust my husband alone w/our children, at any age. Heck, I have been a stay-at-home mom for the most part over the past 12 years, I actually really appreciate it when my husband will take the kids out for a bit just to give me a moment to recoup from all the fun we have....lol. Seriously, though, you are right, if you can't trust your husband than you really have to think why you are with him.

Afterthought: Are you sure your sisters were being serious and not just emphasizing today's stereotype of men being too incompetent to care for children while attempting to funny?

Sure. My husband is a responsible dad. I left them here for a weekend to go to a convention. I got back, the child was intact, the house was clean and my teenagers (I have 2 teenage sons from another relationship) hadn't been arrested or anything....lol. I have surgery on Thursday and my husband is going to be in charge for the 3-4 days I'm in the hospital. I trust him completely.

If someone can't trust their spouse with their children, then they shouldn't have that spouse, you know?

I completely trust my husband to take my boys away for a weekend or longer. He's a responsible man in every part of his life, and that includes being a father.

Maybe your friend just doesn't trust her husband as much. :)

I wouldn't think twice about trusting my husband to do anything as far as the kids are concerned - he's an excellent Dad. I can't imagine being married to a man I can't trust with our kids.

Apparently your friend doesn't trust her husband/partner to make such a comment!I would 100% trust my husband like you did, so don't think twice about it. I'm sure Matt loves Ethan and will take great care of him.

Of course! Your son wil be in the best hands possible! I would trust my partner 100%, it's a nice father son thing to do, after all, if you didn't trust him to take care of your baby then why would you have a baby with him??.. Don't worry, you know as much as me they will be just fine, and i think it's fantastic his father wants to have that time together with his son :)

Some people just don't understand the meaning of loving someone. You had nothing to worry about. I know whenever i get married, my husband will be the 1st person i trust. Don't listen to your friend.

I don't think it is a matter of trust. I think she was suprised that you left him for that long.

You must have a good 2 yr old to sit in a boat and go fishing all day. My son won't sit still for 2 minutes