I'm always being laughed at outside by people I don't know. When I walk past a group the conversation stops

You're not the only one this is happening to... people like that do this to EVERYBODY...

Case in point... look at this question:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmBIx...

You see...? Jerks are jerks... and they're EVERYWHERE.

They take out their shallow, immature, and "intentionally cruel" behavior out on others and for no other reason than they lack a certain something that people with real integrity have. They're bullies and they do it to people they perceive to be vulnerable to their attacks... i.e. people who wouldn' say anything...

They're a bunch of bullies who think it's fun to make fun of others for "nothing" (believe me I've had this done to me and I've seen it done to people I know and I couldn't for the life of me seem to figure out what was so funny... other than the fact that these people were seeing a "NICE" person who doesn't bother others and thought they could pick them out as being "weak" and vulnerable to bullying attacks. Which would be an easy "ego-boost" for those bullies to make them look "cool" in front of their friends - but I'm sure they do this when alone too... that's how stupid their mind works)

Don't let a**holes get to you hon... Just remember... these are the people whose mind NEVER outgrew highschool or gradeschool.............. Now don't you feel sorry for them?

Just remember all the movies and stories that have the main character (the person who goes onto discover that they're great) are stories that also have some shallow, egotistical person who always has to bully them and make fun of them and try to put them down: Cindarella, Harry Potter, Pretty Woman...

Remember that episode of Dawson's Creek where those mean girls were making fun of Joey when she was competing in a beauty pageant??? Was there something wrong with Joey or were those girls just a bunch of b*tches?

See my point.... it means there's something wrong with THEM... not you.

EDIT: Bullies like to pick on those who they perceive as being weak, having low self-esteem or being socially inept (I know because I've had this problem - shy, etc.). And it's sad that studies have actually shown that victimizers will choose their victims (for bullying, for crime, etc.) on these perceived vulnerabilites - it's almost a sixth sense that these jerks have regarding who they can pick on. And if you're in any way seen as "out of the ordinary" (i.e. not one of the popular group or popular perception of the way people are supposed to be) then you get singled out also... This is why I'm glad to be who I am and not like everyone else because those who pick on people for being different are nothing more than "cookie cutters" and about as evolved as a house plant. Do what makes you happy... and if you're happy with yourself then everyone else can kiss your a**... If you're not happy with yourself then the only thing you need to change is to be "true to yourself" and once you find that.... it doesn't matter if other people have a problem with it.

Good luck

From what you've written here it sounds to me that these people have have caused you to lose any self-esteem you might have had going for you.

If that's true, my sympathies are certainly with you. Unfortunatly my sympathy won't help your predicament.

It seems that you expect people to think the worst of you, which, if your goal is to "fit in", is not going to help you.

You didn't express that you wanted advice in your question but I can't figure that you arn't looking for seeing that it is posted... So if it is acceptance, or friends, or whatever here are some suggestions:

1) Fake it till you make it - Find somebody that everybody enjoys being around (this is of your best judgement) and try to act/look more like them. Now if doing this DO NOT copy every last detail of someones personality, you don't want to be someone else you just want to take their good characteristics and mold them into your personality.

2) Little things - personal hygene, clothing style (jeans and a plain shirt have worked forever), hair style, etc...

3) Meeting new people can be scary but having some people help you along the way (ie friends) is always helpful.

If you really want to change there is only time standing in the way so take action and be patient.

Best wishes.

I'm not saying this to be argumentative or to try to put you down, but in the hopes that you will realize the truth and feel better because of it. Nobody actually draws that much attention based on their weight, though they might think they do. People are focused on their own activities; they don't stop and stare or laugh at someone just because they are overweight. (Besides, what's to laugh at? There isn't something inherently funny about overweight people, and even if there was, surely it would have stopped being funny by now - there are overweight people everywhere you look!) Stop focusing on random strangers. If you can find friends who will accept you for who you are, make sure not to let those friendships grow apart. Start focusing on your positive aspects - try new hobbies, find your gifts. Stop worrying about your supposed shortcomings; society's idea of a "beautiful" person changes from decade to decade, and people who are accepted based on their looks are in danger of being discarded when the styles change. Focus on cultivating who you are - there's no need to lament about what you look like, because the people who are worth your time won't care about that.

Don't give up on living a full life because of others. You can do allot about this. You can learn how to not let this bother you & you can change you physical self if you want to do both of those things or either one. I coach people by calling them up every week & helping them get from where they are to where they want to be. I suggest you work with someone like me. I changed my life that is why I got into this work. You deserve to live a great life as much as anyone so do what you can to find peace. If you do look for a coach & can't afford it don't let that stop you cause some people just love to help people & would be glad to work with you based on what you can afford. You have to make the step to help yourself. The people that laugh at you are showing everyone around them who they are.

This is because these people have problems of their own, and by laughing at you and teasing you it masks their own problems, and makes them seem good in front of their friends.

All that can really be said is just to ignore them, and don't respond to their stupidness. My friend is in the exact same situation, and what I find is that people dislike her at first, but then when they spend some time with her they start to like her. Don't just think "She's probably just saying that, it won't be like that" but it is. Recently I changed friendship groups, and me, my friend and another friend started hanging round with another group of people. Most of them disliked her, but after a few weeks they have started to warm to her. And now like her properly.

You shouldn't be afraid to stand out. I'm not going to tell you to stand out too much, but just be who you are.

These people do this to everyone, I am just an average person, not great looking-I have my faults like everyone else, and they sometimes say things to me. Mainly based on the fact that I dress differently...I dress slightly emo...but not really over the top. You will always find that people will try and provoke other people. The only thing that's different is how people react to torment.

Trust me, you're not a freak, people do this to everyone.

For a longer term solution, try to get constant exercise and watch your diet to lose wait. You'll feel better about yourself. Don't try to compensate for what's happening by eating. That's a downward spiral. If you're not good at group sports, you can always exercise alone (check out the "bicycle crunch" exercise on google images) to reduce weight. You didn't say if you wore glasses. If you do, consider trying contacts if possible. Sometimes glasses distort your expression that you give to others and teenagers can misinterpret facial expressions based on the kind of glasses you have.

Those people are immature, insecure children. Try not to dwell on it too much. I am sure its very hard. One thing to remember though is that sometimes when this happens we tend to LOOK for it. Meaning, maybe we start thinking that EVERYONE feels that way, or EVERYONE is staring when in actuality people may just be zoning out, or laughing at something else. Sorry you are going through this though. :(

I'm really sorry to hear that. It has to be difficult for your self-esteem for that to be happening. Do you know the people who are stopping conversation as you pass? I wish that I had an answer for you as to why this was happening, unfortunately, the best I've got is to say that some people are just jerks.

Maybe you can join an organization based on your interests and meet people who share your interests. Then, people will get to know you and not judge you based on first impressions.

Girls… Nicole. Lauren. Maggie. Lilly. Olivia. Christiana. Boys… James. Matt. Peter. Thomas.

hmn. used to think like that. but over the years, wen people laugh wen i'm walking pass i tell myself that its a big coincidence. and most of the time it is. and u know wat, wen people are laughing, they tend to just look at other people around while laughing so hard. even u do it too, so wen someone not so confident walks by, he/she feels their on about him. and if u get picked out of a crowd, it happens to everyone at one point or the other. dont let anything depress u. u're a cute chubby person. :)