how can i make my dad get over it?

i dont really blame him, two years is a bit much for grudges, especially towards ones own daughter, but he may never like you husband because he took you from him before he was ready to give you up. At 16 he still saw you as his little girl, and wasnt expecting to lose you till you were 20 or so.

Well, I know this is annoying, but being a counselor for families, I know what I am talking about when I say that your dad wanted you to have a good life. He probably blames himself for your pregnancy at 16. He still views you as a young child. You may think he should be over it, but he thinks he is right. From the information I gathered from the question, you must be 18, 19 or 20? Forgive me if I'm wrong. He probably thinks you are too young to be having a second child. I, however, think it is perfectly okay. Try talking to your dad about this, or, if you want, set up and appointment with a counselor. I know of a few great family ones that would be good for you. I hope I helped you. If you would like those recommendations, please email me.

It may take some more time. In your dad's eyes you are his little girl and Matt--even though he married you is the man who got his teenage daughter pregnant. I bet he had other plans for your future, and I will make a wild guess that those plans didn't include a pregnancy at the age of 16 or a young marriage. Just know that he loves you, and hopefully he loves the babies too...and is a good grandpa. For now maybe that should be enough.

Yes definately, well done and congratulations to you and matt for having the strength and love to endure that. Can you talk to your dad about it, maybe explain that matt is your husband and although he may not like it you would appreciate it if he tried to be friendly for your sake, Or for the kids because no child should see family disrespect each other. I really hope your dad can move on and if he doesn't then don't let it get to you because you obviously have a good man by your side.

Only time can heal the wounds, you cannot just tell your father, move on, but i think the best way is for you to be extra sweet to him, and try to set a family get together so your dad and your husband could spend more time together, and try to make your dad feel he is still a part of your life.

well sometimes it takes a while to get over things that are hard on someone...try talking to him when your husband isn't around and see if you can work it out. if your husband is there every time he is it might make it harder to talk to your dad about this so find a time to be alone with your dad and work out this problem. if you don't do anything it will just get worse, and your dad probably wants to sort this out as much as you do.

OMG this is just about me, my boyfriend(whose name is Matt too) had a problem with my mother, i don't have a father, when i got pregnant, after time she warmed up to him when she saw how he was with our daughter

Yes...you're an adult, and Matt has "proven" his love and commitment...so your dad needs to accept things and make a happy family life

At least he had a vision for your future, which I'm sure was really great. The fact that you didn't follow that vision broke his heart. Maybe you can accomodate him a little bit on that. He just wanted the best for ya.

Yeah, he needs to grow up and get over it. You're an adult, you control your own life. If he wants to hate anyone or be mad at anyone, it should be himself for allowing you to be in a situation where you got pregnant at 16.