Once again, it feels better to say I'm lesbian?

You sound normal 13 to me. No need for labels. Just be safe, trust your feelings, and follow your heart (not necessarily your "urges"). You'll find your way soon enough.

Even though it's very old and dry, read (or read about) the Kinsey report. People go through many phases of attraction in life.

If you were older I could give you a better answer. You sound confused to me, or curious. Maybe you can experiment with a girl to see what you like. You're pretty young though. I know this seems like a trite response, but just slow down and don't worry about it.

When you're eighteen you'll look back on this and think of it as child's play. I don't think you can figure out your true sexuality just yet. I'm 20 and I realized I'm a lesbian just last month. When I was thirteen I would've never guessed that. See what I mean?

Your young only 13 so your at the experimental phrase, there is nothing wrong with being bi-sexual date guys and girls and see who you feel more comfortable with. Explore your options you might find you like both sexes equally yet it might be easier to date men than women because its what society wants you to do. But do what makes you happy most 13 dont know what they want dont be to hard on yourself. If i was a female I would be a lesbian, women are beautiful there bodies, they way the kiss so senstive how they are so soft,

Seriously it sounds like you just don't understand her anymore. Sit down and talk to her. Tell her you are jsut curious about her and what has happened through the years. How did she realize she was a lesbian? Stuff like that. If she gets offended tell her honestly you are not trying to be rude but you just want to understand things you have never had to understand before.

There is a book, Singer in the Rain;Fire in the Storm, by Holly Near. At one time she was a very popular lesbian singer and low and behold, she feel in love with a male and the lesbians refused to buy her music. Basically her story talked about falling in love with a person-not a sex. Yes I understand there is a lot of people that will boo me, but there was a lot of truth in her story.

I have a Minor in Women's Studies as I was working on my Psych Degree. I learned there was a lot more to sexuality than the SEX part. It was who you connected to verbally emotionally, spiritually, etc. and sex was only a very small part of a relationship. This was also in the Kinsey report dating back to the early 70's.

You're awfully young to be putting a label on yourself-enjoy life both the males and females you are attracted to. In time you will figure out who you want to spend your life with. Why put a LABEL on yourself this young. Have fun......

As a guy on the part of not being notice. Sometimes we will see a girl that's so hot that we know there's no way she would talk to us so we protect are self by not trying or pretending not to see her. Your on your own on the lesbian part.

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Give it some time. Your only 13! It's your choice to decide whether you would rather be with a boy or a girl, but it's not a good idea to decide so young. Be a child! Stop thinking about whether your gay or straight and just have fun (CLEAN fun) and be a kid!!

I think you're bi, or maybe just a bit confused realizing you're a lesbian and not straight like you used to assume. Just be whoever you are, don't worry about a label just yet, and eventually you'll figure everything out. :) Good Luck!

i didnt no 13 year old girls look at porn.. but ur prolly jus falt out bi...

itsc acceptable now days..

but if u leabian possibly how can u have crush on guys??

u even leave me confused

i don't think your a lesbian

i would never date a girl, but i like to look at them naked in photos and stuff. i think its really hot. i am attracted to boys too.

whenever i look at girls **** and pussys it makes me horny.

but i like boys. and its cool

ur pretty young, like me, so it doesnt matter.