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Are there any women out there who'd like to date a humble, intelligent, kind man over a false confident guy...

with a brand new car and cocky attitude? If so, what approach from a nice guy would be most welcome. Would a simply hello and introduction suffice? Thanks.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Being a nice guy is one thing. Once women grow up that's part of what they want. Teenage girls and (some) women in their early 20's also like the "bad boy" or "rebel" - sort of like them living vicariously through association with him.

    Women of all ages also want a guy who is fun to be around, and interesting or exciting to hang out with. Take gender out of the picture for a second: Would you want to hang out with boring people; very meek and quiet people; people who can't tell a joke; people who dress badly; people who are obviously nervous and uncomfortable around you, or super nice to you in a flattering fawning way; people who buy you gifts in an attempt to "bribe" you into liking them; people who are way out of shape (and want to make out with you); people who talk incessantly about things you don't care about; people who have no hobbies or friends of their own? Most men make some or all of these mistakes in dealing with women.

    Seems to me like your real question is "what do women want?". Same thing men do, women aren't a huge mystery unless you make them out to be...

    Simple quiet confidence. A relaxed and happy demeanor (like you're hanging out with pals, not someone you're halfway scared of). Ability to speak calmly and intelligently, in a relaxed an happy fashion. A good sense of humor (not "on" all the time with constant jokes and fake banter). Unafraid to take up physical space - by this I mean relaxed and physically at ease, like you're hanging out with friends, not like you're scared of a woman and nervous about how she might be judging your looks. Conversation about something other than science, politics, sports, cars, engines, or war. A circle of friends, hobbies, and a full life of your own. Good physical shape (reasonably good condition is great - just like men go after women who are in good shape - you don't have to be a jock or movie star). A guy who can dress well - can match colors and patterns, doesn't wear clothes or colors that are obviously unflattering or inappropriate, no need to be a clothes horse or GQ model.

    Get hobbies; join clubs that include both men and women; work out a little; learn to dress (magazines are good for this, read lots for free at the library or online); learn to dance (don't have to be great at it, just not bad); learn to carry on a conversation; learn to play guitar. You'll find women coming out of the woodwork.

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