Why get married? Reasons for mariage?

Why get married? To me it is an actions speak louder than words. I married my wife because I wanted a way to "show her" that I was completely invested in our life and future together. To me, marriage is definatly more than "just a peice of paper." It was a way to show my commitment and express my love to my wife. Marriage is definatly scary and hard to do, but really, just about anything worth having is.

There is no reason to get married. You can have a committed relationship, children and love without marriage. When you marry it's the same as befor you were married, only difference is your last name, the ring on your finger and a peice of paper not to mention when you divorce you have to pay out the butt, why? What's the point?

My partner of 6 years and I are in the same situation except neither of us want to do it again. It's a good sign that he isn't wanting to jump into marriage again; that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Sounds as if you have never been married and naturally want that, but it's not the answer if he is not ready for that again. Just be happy together and don't worry about a piece of paper.

He had a bad experience with a bad person that wasn't a match. The fact he said "I do" and made it legal doesn't change that they were not meant to be.

You want to legally and religiously get married. Join in a ceremony as husband and wife in front of your friends and family. You want to be proud to say you are his wife and connected forever. You want your children to see the great role model of your partnership and not just a "we don't respect marriage, marriage is a sham, marriage is just a piece of paper"

Reasons for marriage:

Joining forever legally, religiously, emotionally with the one you love and not just bf/gf forever.

Tax benefit

The family has one name and it is not confusing

Easier for others to address Holiday cards or invites instead of keeping you separate forever.

Women see it differently than men. They fantasize about their wedding day from age 5 on. It is not just some day or some peice of paper. It is a fantasy and dream to be fulfilled.

Committment. It's much easier to just move out than go through divorce. Someone who doesn't want to marry is someone who doesn't want to be in it for the long haul, or is looking for the "Easy way out" should things ever turn sour.

the main reason for me was to show how much we loved and respected each other and it has worked been married 24yrs and still going strong but that doesnt m ean we dont have problems everyone does but you tend to try to work it out instead of throwing in the towel but you both have to want it or it w ill just blowup in your face

Answer these question to yourself. Getting Married and having the ring is great. Divorced sucks. For my opinion it is easier for the couple to leave one another without marriage.

Question 1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?

Question 2: Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?

Question 3: How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

Question 4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means and through what efforts?

Question 5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend?

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Question 6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?

Question 7: If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?

Question 8: How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition?

Question 9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?

Question 10: Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?

Question 11: Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?

Question 12: Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?

Question 13: What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often?

Question 14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?

Question 15: Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?

Question 16: How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?

Question 17: Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments?

Question 18: What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?

Question 19: Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

Question 20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices?

We can't tell you what YOUR reasons are for marrying. People marry for many different reasons...love, stability, because society says you should, tradition, the reasons you state, etc.