I've been sleeping with my married boss for over a year...?

You are about to receive lots of answers that are not what you want to hear. LEAVE HIM ALONE. He is not YOUR man. Those poor children. Look what you've done.

Just a question for all the respondants...not that I agree with her actions, but why is it her that "ruined his marriage" and "broke up his family"?

He was the one who stood before God and vowed to love his wife and stay faithful to her forever. He was the one who chose to break those vows. He ruined his own marriage and is hurting his own children. If it wasn't her it would have been someone else. It's just another example of how women are branded as whores and men are allowed to get away with murder.

Yes there are a lot of judgemental people out there. I suppose all of you are saints and have never done anything wrong in your lives or made any mistakes, especially where love is concerned. I'm sure there are lots of things you all thought you would never do, but your tune changed when you were placed in that situation yourself. Don't judge until you have walked in someone else's shoes. It must be nice to walk around with a halo over your head.

That being said Fudge, this is really not a great situation to be in. Get out before it gets any worse. He said he was "prepared" to leave his wife...has he actually done it? There's a big difference between "talk" and "action". Until he's moved out and shows you divorce papers, he's still married and living at home. His wife may be the biggest beotch ever and his home life may be miserable, or she may be a great person and has no idea her marriage is in trouble. You don't know which it is, only what he's telling you. You should tell him you aren't ready for such a commitment right now. He's being selfish and playing with your emotions.

You should also find a new job. Even if you two break up he can't fire you (it's illegal, and if he does you can tell Human Resources the situation and he could get fired himself, so don't worry about that) but it will make for a very awkward situation and increase the chances of you two getting back together. You need to think about yourself right now and what's best for you. Good luck!

I have a few questions "what makes you think he wont have fling with someone else? Also what type of a woman sleeps with a man that is married with children knowingly? He is a bad husband and man. Why would you participate in the destruction of a another womans family? Are you that evil? What is the confusion? You chose to sleep with a man that is unavailable to you. I would tell you anything to get into your pants too. Hell women like you are so easy to bang every now and again. If you stay with this guy what is the plan for his son. You willing to be a step mom to a kid who's home you helped destroy. This guy married his wife. She did not wake up one morning and poof she was a different person. You only know the dynamics of their marriage from his point of view not hers. Maybe she had trust issues with him cause he's a Lair. Ever thought about that. He lied to the woman he said VOWS to what makes you any different. He said all the things you wanted to hear and you fell for it. How easy it was. He also said the same things to his WIFE. Guranteed!!!! So be destructive it probably is in your nature. His kid would be without a home and a real family. His son will get to visit both homes You are willing to go along with that? WOW sounds like one hell of a good plan. What kind of a father would do this to his kid and Wife whom he told he love through sickness and health, good or bad times? What a liar he is.

And at some time (possibly last night) he told his wife that she was beautiful, perfect and great. Sorry to tell you this but he is married, and marriage is one of the biggest commitments in your life where, whether you believe in it or not, you agree and can see a future with the person that you walk down the aisle with.

So Fudge, does the man who you are seeing sound like the sort of man you can trust? He is having sex with one of his employees for the last year, behind his wifes back. He obviously doesn't value his marriage or his children, so why the hell would he value your feelings in the future?What makes you any different?

I think its time to get a new job, move on and find a man who is actually "available", not a married man who treats his family and yourself like a doormat.

Well... you shouldn't have gotten started with him in the first place. But people will do what people will do.

Well, even though it seems that you will be happer together, his wife (or ex) will make life hell for you both. You seem to be ok with the situation as it is. I would talk to him and tell him that if he want's to leave, at least wait until his son is old enough be on his own. Walking out on your wife is bad enough, but walking out on a child is plain wrong. Depending on his age, it can have more adverse effect on his view of life then you or you man can imagine. He may get the outlook that women are playthings you use until your done then throw them away, or his view of what love between a man and a woman is supposed to be will be warped. If you truly love eachother, then waiting till he's grown shouldn't be a problem.

It happens...the excitement,the risk,the thrill of it. Maybe you are a better person for him--who is to say. BUT,there are a few things to consider:if he is willing to cheat on her...he will likely cheat on you. There are many reasons why spouses cheat and NO ONE here should be judging you. It also sounds as if you are not sure-that is a red flag. Take some time off from this relationship. Figure out what YOU want and need in a relationship.

Maybe then it will become a little clearer to all.

I understand what you are going through. But there is a question I must ask: How was his relationship with his wife before he met you? Was it ok? Has he mentioned that he wanted to leave before he met you? Are you the only affair he's had?

I understand you will have a very heavy guilt over you if you are the only reason he is leaving. This is something that you have to talk to him about.

I wish you all the luck!

You know what, people may have wife and children and still not be with the right person.. maybe u r the one for him. But then again, its sad of him to leave. The right thing to do would be to end it. BUT then again.. if u end it.. u could risk your affairs and jobs do not mix.

someone always gets .f.u.c.k.e.d up in the end...

Besides, every woman wants to be with a real man right?

He is not a real man, he cant even bother to look after his family and instead he is mingling with sumwun like you.

once a cheat, always a cheat. i bet wen u get with him, u htink he loves u but instead he is doing the exact same thing to u as he did his wife - cheat!

Woah... i really wonder what ur gonna do...

ur job at rik.

dignity.

reputation! lol im going too far...

uve been with him over a year? he basicly knows ur CHINA inside out... i wont be surprised once the time comes wen u actually decide to leave him he flips on u....

u no what.. im not making much sense anymore..ill just leave it..

U decide what U want to do...

dont make ppl decide for U...

take advice tht suits U....

Girl open your eyes. He is a cheater and always will be. He has cheated on her and will cheat on you. Also you should be ashamed of yourself totally for even giving him the time of day. Just put yourself in his wives shoes. Oh well you probably can't as you never spend years with a man building a family, having his kids and cleaning his house and taking care of him when he is sick and all those wonderful things a wife does because she loves her husband. Just to have that cheating bastard go with a girl like you who will cheat with him. Get out and have more Morales and self respect in the future.

Once a cheater always a cheater, if he is cheating on his wife what makes you think he won't cheat on you too. Do you really want a man like this in your life is right, he is willing to tear his family apart over some stupid affair.

Does he even care about his wife and child at all, and if he don't care about them he don't care about you either, he don't care about anyone but himself.

Is that what you want to be a Homewrecker. Why on earth would you have messed with a married man to start with is my question.

Having an affair is okay, destroying a family is not that. So you should ask your boss not to leave his family. "Stay with them!" Then you have done what you have to. You may love him, but first or last you should also build up a stable relationship, independent on your present boss. Even if you will keep this relationship.