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my husband and our girls?
I have a wonderful husband and 2 wonderful daughters. Isabella is our oldest at age 2 1/2 years. Athena is our youngest at 9 1/2 months. My problem is my husband...he can get very obsessed when he starts "projects". My husband and I are avid Off-Roaders. Recently, he took the few useful parts off of his big mud truck and sent it to the junk yard so he could start up a SUV mud truck so he could take our daughters out with us when they are old enough. Latley he has become very involved with doing his "research" on how he is going to properly build this truck so it is tough enough. He works full time, I am a stay at home mom.he comes home from work and sits on the computer until we eat, then he showers and back on the computer till bed time. He barley talks or plays with the girls. Excuses include that he worked all day, tired, sore (he has fibromyalgia, a joint and muscle disorder). I tell him I dont mind him playing on the computer but he needs to spent time with the kids.
He says he is too sore. I tell him he dosent need to wrestle with them, just play ball, color, talk to them. Then he gets mad at me because I am the one doing EVERYTHING for the kids...I bathe them alone, feed and clean them up myself, get them ready for bed myself. I am overwhelmed and our oldest is acting out more and more because I cant give them both the attention they need and deserve all by myself. our youngest has thrush and is needing even more of my time which upsets our oldest even more. I dont know what to do about it. Any sugestions would be great!
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I would have some words for him..See I grew up with out a dad so My hubby knew he was going to be hands on with our child..and I am so blessed because he is..
Well,,This is what I do..I work 2 days a week and I work on the days my husband has off so he watches her while I work and I am with her when he works...on my days at home I do all the chores and on his 2 days at home he does the chores..we really do have a good system..then on the days that he gets home early I take a shower, go to the store if needed and he watches her....vice versa.....
having a family is about bonding and togetherness.....I hate to say it but if you are really upset you need to let him know there is a difference between a sperm doner and a dad and as of right now he is the sperm doner...
Or just one day when he gets home telling him you are going out for coffee with girl friends and he is in charge....with you gone he has to watch them....I know it sucks you should have to ask him to spend time with his children but if he gets pushed into it he might realize what he is missing...
and if all else fails tell him to call my husband..lol..he gets teary eyed when it comes to being a dad he loves it..
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Maybe he will play game on computer with the kids? if not, tell him how you feel, tell him you been stay home mommy all day who been hard work all day with 2 kids which you need break and it's his turn to takecare of the kids your not only one to takecare of your kids whole 24/7 he is the father which mean he had be with kids too.