Will it ever get better?

forget about him, sort yourself out then go find someone NEW, who will love you just the way you are. someone will. and then it will be better.

in the mean time, keep busy, get lots of hobbies, go and see friends go to new groups and meet new people.

try to erase him from your mind - thats my advice

hope that helps a bit x

well...that kind of pain and loss and fear that it won't ever get better...thats all a pretty normal standard part of breaking up and gettnig over someone. And although a year is a long time to feel that way, it's not that much if you were having a child with him and thought he was your soulmate. It can take that long.

But it sounds like you've got more going on than just pain of losing someone. Borderline, cutting, etc etc...this is coming from more than just losing him, and it sounds like you've got bigger issues on your plate than whether or not he was the guy for you.

You're already on the right track. You are in therapy, and that's really the best place to sort these things out. You need to get to a point where you feel strong on your own, and then once you don't need someone else, then you will be much more attractive to guys and much better able to keep a guy once you've gotten him, too.

So yes...the pain does go away...be patient with yourself and give yourself some time. He's not the only man you could ever love or trust. But I think you've got to do some work on your own before you'll be ready for the next one.

It will get better if you move onto better things. As you said, he doesn't acknowledge you anymore, and that's the kind of guy he is. You wouldn't want that back, I mean what will he do next time you lose a baby, just run? Not good for anybody. You can't possibly be that attached to this jerk, sounds like your biggest problem is your depression and lack of self-esteem. I'm not criticizing you, I just think you're worth the trouble of getting help.

is there someway u can get him back? think about y u broke up in the first place and c if it was a fixable problem. im sure the pain will go away at some point. good luck

OMG its like i have written this myself (except i still si).

i lost and baby and have BPD/bi-polar. and lost my fiancee.

sweetie you wont believe me if i told you but i will anyway................

this WILL get better, trouble is you had such a double whammi of loosing your baby and him! you went through all that with the baby on your own?

no wonder your torn to pieces!

he should have been there for you to help you throught it.

i know how you were feeling trust me!

listen dont wanna say to much on here but if u fancy a chat/rant anything........... contact me x

good luck x

You need to sort yourself before going into any relationship

Being empty, lost and frightened without your sole mate isn't so bad, you get used to it.

You probably broke up for a good reason otherwise it wouldn't have happened. good luck

If he really means that much to you as you say i would call him and just ask to meet up one day and talk and tell him how you feel and all that you've gone through. He very well might be trying to hide his emotions to make you think.. my boyfriend does that. Good luck.

Go back to therapy and tell them all the stuff your feeling right now,they can tell you what to do and how to manage it,goodluck.