Was I wrong to be disappointed in my friend?

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I have a friend whocancelled five of our plans.  She apologized each time and I never thought anything of it.  In June she invited my children to her son's party; our kids don't really know each other.  A few days before I told her that we would not be able to come; we were busy at the end of the school year.  She told me that it was f----d up.  So feeling guilty I went anyway, but left really early.

Anyway, we made plans to go out as couples a few weekends ago.  She kept calling me to cancel, then calling back to say she could make it.  This went back and forth several times until she finally confirmed.  I told her it was really important to me to go out that night because my daughter was going away and I needed some distraction.
At 11am on Saturday her husband cancelled.  She called me later to apologize.  I said I understand but when I came home later, I realized that I was hurt by this behavior.  I emailed her that I was disappointed in her. Not a word from her.  Wrong or right?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What a brat! Tell her she is a hypocrite because she gets mad when you cancel plans ONCE for something important, but she cancels a million times for who knows what reason.

She sounds selfish and hypocritical to me, I wouldn't waste my time with somebody like that. Move on. (: You deserve better, and you sound like a great friend.

cupcake911 · Answer

You friend is flakey, and it is completely ok to feel disappointed and I'm glad to hear that you told her that.  And for it to be a bigger deal for you to cancel ahead of time once than it is for her numerous last-minute ditches, signals that in your friend's world, it is ALL about her.  I wouldn't  rely on her for much.  If she calls, she calls.  If she doesn't, well, she probably would have canceled whatever plans you might have made then anyways, so no loss.  I file friends like these in the 'Ill call you when I need you, but face it we're not really that great of friends' category.  Chin up and good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

I think that the main thing is for you to move on. Find a way to keep from communicating with her again. She has strange behavior and you don't need someone who gets bent out of shape because you couldn't come to the birthday party. It's obvious that you don't feel comfortable around her, and it was her husband who had to call and cancel. I sense that she's got some serious issues and you don't need the drama.

Anonymous · Answer

Accually i agree with you i would be pissed off to....but if those times that she cancelled was because of a major family problem then you shouldn't feel guilty i think that you did the right thing by me i would have done the same thing but i would have mad an even bigger deal out of it so.. good job!!lol

learners · Answer

She is not your friend dont bother with her she is selfish and what could possibly come up  so many times  she does not care and is a lazy friend get  rid of her there are so many other nice people you are wasting your time and energy look in your church work where ever for a new friend

harrypotterfreak&lt;3 · Answer

right 
tell her to start making plans instead of u and maybe she can block out like one day where u guys just chill

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Was I wrong to be disappointed in my friend?

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