smile when upset? can this be controlled?

You have to replace it with another action, conciously, until it becomes a habit.

i.e. You get bad news, and feel the smile coming on -- physically make yourself do something else, like cough or frown. Even put your hand over your face, if you can't help it.

Whatever it is that you choose, constantly do that action when you recieve bad news, and eventually it will be your new habit.

Over the course of my life, I've come acrooss many time when the phoenomena of nervous laughter has surfaced. I thing it comes from subconsciously being uncomfortable with expressing negative emotions. If you are used to eliciting good feelings among people, you may not know exactly how to act when bad news comes your way. I've dealt with this myself. I think that maybe some instruction on understanding the philosophies on rational assertiveness may provide you with a valuable solution. I've become aware of too many resources too go into. Howvere, if you send me a message, I will faithfully respond with some materials that I believe may be of use.

Smiling is are first reaction when we hear any news. Its mostly to hide, or hold back something. Its a natural reaction we have to hide things from other peoples reactions.

I do it all the time. Or when I don't know what else to do, I smile. Some one was telling me a story of how they were destroyed by this one person, and she went into this rage....and all I could do was sit back and giggle. That is my number one reaction...Giggle, then smile, and, of course apologize.

I...have no idea. It's kinda like how my little brother laughs at the violent scenes in movies. And five years ago when my grandma died, everyone was crying while he was giggling to himself. He was very young at the time, but that attitude of his has continued throughout the years. He just doesn't get upset in front of people. I really don't think he was laughing at my grandma's death, but it's just what you said, nerves.

And I remember when I was younger, when my mom was punishing me, I couldn't help but smile. I think all you can do is try to explain yourself and compare your situation to something your husband does so he can sympathize with you.

omg i have the same problem. i told my friend about it and he asked me if i secretly enjoyed it. i thought about it for a while and couldnt figure it out, so i dismissed the question.

like just now one my classmates was crying and i asked her friend why. i wrote the question on a paper, and while waiting for her reply, i was nervous but i found myself smiling.

i went to do a search on it and found something called the 'miserable smile' or whatever. i told myself that it might be a defense mechanism and there is nothing much i can do about it.

It's not really a smile, it's a grimace. Practice grimacing in front of your mirror and learn how to do it so it doesn't look like a smile.

Look into the God when you upset, He will support.

Don't upset anyway, God is with you, He loves you