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I'll try to make this story short...I've been with my man for over 3 years. We got engaged last Dec. and now have found out that I am 4 1/2 months prego!!! We are both WAY excited and happy about it because neither thought that we could have children!! So it's been a blessing!! We have our own home that we are buying. Everything has been looking Great for us! Well he doesn't have a license and he has a little anger problem. He's never nor would he ever hit me! But he just doesn't understand my feelings especailly now that I am pregnant. (he tells me that I shouldn't be this hormonal so early in my pregnancy! LIKE HE FREAKING KNOWS!) I am usually not that big of an emotional person but I am pretty needy! and it's worse now!! So anyways he's been hanging out with his friends a lot lately on his days off and not been spending that much time with me. Well we had a long drawn out conversation about it over the weekend and I told him how I felt about it and he said okay he would work on it. Well yesterday when I got off work and got home he wasn't there. And I hadn't heard from him all day long while I was at work. So I expected a note at least letting me know where he was going! But Nothing! I sit there getting more and more upset as the night went on and finally went to bed around 11pm. Around 12:30 I heard this banging on my window and it scared the crap out of me! My man has a key so I wouldn't have thought it was him so I was really scared cause we live out in the country and I don't know anyone around us. Anyways I finally get up and look out the window and notice it was my fiance and there was no truck. He got pulled over yesterday and because he doesn't have a license the truck was impounded. I am just upset with him because guess where he was going?!?! TO his stupid friends house!!!! We talked a lot last night about it but I am still just so freaking upset with him! He needs to grow up! Do you think I am being a b*tch about this or think I am in the right to tell him to straighten up!?

McKayla&#39;s Mommy · Accepted Answer

i had a similar situation when i found i was pregnant my husband didn't have a license or a job. but the baby changed everything he now works 50+ hours a week got his license back and even bought a car. if he wants you and the baby he will grow up and straighten out. realize that being with a pregnant woman is not easy (we don't make it easy and we shouldn't have to) so give him a little bit of a break. good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

You are right,  he needs to start growing up,  if he can't be responsible now what chance have you got when the baby arrives.

Also there are some excellent books for men on the market (there is one called something like "You are pregnant too Mate" - Not all men can appreciate what pregnancy is like / what you are going through - this will help).

Anonymous · Answer

I understand your feelings he cant spend every minute with his friends. At this point he has had 20 some years to be with them now its time to be with you and soon your baby. I told my bf party time was over and he needed to be more available to me and less available to his buddies. Also I would tell him he need to look into getting a license and straighten that out asap, having kids requires a lot of driving.

thunder2sys · Answer

Sounds like he is ok with being a father, but can't deal with you or your needs.  He does need to change, but sounds like you could as well.  You said you are very needy, but can't the two of you meet half way?  He caters to some of your needs and you don't ask or be as needy.  Compromise is what makes good relationships.  One side dictating is just asking for trouble..../

I Think I&#39;ll Eat A Worm! · Answer

I'm sorry to be the one to ask you this , but are you sure hes not cheating on you? I have heard of this happening before. When a woman gets pregnant her man will step out on her. I hope he isn't, but he does need to grow up!

Momma2eight · Answer

Its time for him to start being responsible. He's going to be a father in less then 6 months and needs to start behaving like an adult. Yes, you are right in telling him to stop acting immature. Congratulations and good luck!

? · Answer

The handiest track approximately this designated hindrance might be "Hotel California" through The Eagles. Still a best album--I have an historic vinyl reproduction that I obtained for my 14th birthday in (choke) 1977.

jorgia1 · Answer

You are right. That's no way for a real man to be acting. Nor is it the way a father should be acting.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah he needs to grow up

Anonymous · Answer

He's about to be a dad, he needs to grow up.

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