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Boyfriend problem, a little help please?

Here is the thing. my boyfriend has recently gotten a new job which he likes and I am excited for him. But he has been putting a lot of hours lately. On Tuesday last week he called me and said he had to go to work which I didn't have a problem with. Then we were supposed to go out on Sunday and he didn't show up or call me. Finally I got a hold of him yesterday only after I went to his house left a note and talked to his mom.

But the thing is his phone was off I couldn't find him anywhere so I was freaking out. So that is why I went. Finally he called me and said he got a new phone and number and 'forgot' my number which I have trouble getting my head around. After one day I already know his number and after 5 months he can't remember mine? He was mad at me (despite saying he wasn't. I can hear it in his voice) for being concerned and worried that he was in the hospital or something.

My question is.... Was I wrong to go to his house? Does he have a reason to be annoyed/angry/frustrated? Am I just missing something here?

Update:

He's done this alot before, calling me and calling off but never completley not showing up.

And I haven't met his parents. I think he may be trying to hide me from them and that is why he got fustrated and angry. I told him I was worried about him but he just didn't get it.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Someone that cares will make the effort. Someone that wants something very specific done they will mention it. Someone that loves you will not blow you away. Someone that loves you will blow your mind.

    You can ask him some of these questions. Where are we going to be in the short term? Where are we going to be in the long term? Am I still AS important as before? Is there something missing between us?

    You can ask yourself some of these questions. Where do I see this in the short term? Do I see a future with him? Where would my career be with or without him? Am I as important as before? Is there something missing for me?

    The relationship has to be fulfilling: emotionally, sexually, intellectually, and fundamentally. If there is no trust, communication, loyalty, and care, then what is there?

    Best of luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    This could be one of two things:

    1. He honestly forgot your phone number. A lot of boys don't bother to memorize phone numbers. Heck, if my boyfriend lost his phone, not only would he lose my number, but the dates of my birthday and our anniversary. It's nothing to be concerned about. If he says he isn't mad then there's a good chance he isn't.

    2. He was looking for some space or time to himself. If he just got a new job he may be stressed. If he was looking for space, of course he was mad you went to his house. Talk to him and ask him if he needs space or more time to himself.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I don't think you were wrong at all.

    I would do the same thing. Its only natural to be worried so he should at least sympathize that you cared enough to make sure he was ok.

    I think you should step back and recalculate the situation, how could he just get a new phone and not tell you?

    and the whole forgetting your number thing?

    no cool.

    talk to him.

    stay calm and just tell him how you feel.

    hopefully he will understand

    and if not...

    well he isn't worth worrying about then anyways!

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    It took my partner about 2 years to learn my phone number, and about that long to remember how to spell my full name properly. Guys can be weird like that. Standing you up isn't ok though. I'd be sending a letter telling him I'm tired of him standing me up, because I deserve a phone call at least and if he wants to call me sometime, he's more than welcome. I wouldn't be waiting around the phone either. I'd be going out and enjoying myself. I wouldn't have much faith in a guy who doesn't want to tell his parents about me after 5 months.

  • 1 decade ago

    You seem a little too posessive. You didn't hear from him for one day so you went to his house to track him down. You should probably relax and not concern yourself so much with his affairs. I've been dating my girl for 2 years and if she showed up to my house un-announced I would think she was crazy. Give him some space.

  • 1 decade ago

    For us girls, it is normal to be like what you did. I think your boyfriend has anomaly. Maybe he's sneaking around. He's obvious anyways. If your boyfriend cares your relationship, he will do whatever he wants just to let you know where the hell is he and what happen to him. A lot of excuses means "something".

  • 1 decade ago

    No, I would have been upset, too. I don't think you were too out-of-control. But I would just let it all go. He's okay, you're okay. Leave it at that. If he continues to flake out like that, you might have a problem. But don't let a "moment" escalate into a full-blown drama.

  • 1 decade ago

    did you tell him that it was a worry over he was hurt or just concern without the detail? cuz then he might take it wrong and think you don't trust him or something like that.

    also.. he might have been mad at something else.

    don't worry over nothing.

    guys don't like it when you over worry and stuff

    it can get annoying.

    Source(s): nothing was bad about checking his house. unless he's hiding something, lolz
  • 1 decade ago

    Somthing is up here!! I am not being mean but it sounds like he is blowing you off! You wernt wrong to go to his house you were worried! Who wouldnt be!And him forgetting your number thats a bs excuse!Im sorry to have a negative answer but this is what is sounds like to me.

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