what should I do with my brother?

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Where do I start.... I have lost all respect for my older brother when I got pregnant with my son. My brother told my mom that he wont have nothing to do with me because I got pregnant and that my kids were half white and half mexican. And the sad part is that we are half mexican ourselfs.

He has said that he didn't care about me or the kids. And that he didn't want to meet the kids becasue of what race they are. My mom showed my brother and his wife pictures of the kids and my brother said I don't want to see pictures of them becasue I don't like them and I don't care about them.

Well, he moved to another state about a couple of months. And he ended up calling my mom. And he was talking to her. And he said that he was sorry for the way that he was acting and that he wants to see the kids and get to know them.

But, How can I forgive him when he put my kids down and put me through so much. 

But, would you forgive your brother for putting your kids down and also putting you down for having the kids.

What would ya'll do? I really need some advise... I know he is my family and my brother but I don't think I can forgive him.

AMF · Accepted Answer

I think that you should. There could have been reason why other then what he told you why he didn't want to see your kids. You need to talk to him and see if that is the case.

bea · Answer

Meet your brother alone and talk with him ask him why, don't get mad or upset listen he may have thought he had good reasons. Ask him what changed his mind. You may find out that you can forgive him. If you think he has changed let him meet your kids you might find that he wants to make it up to your children. Don't pass up this chance you never know what is going to happen tomorrow! If he did change don't cheat the children or yourself of your brothers love!

Anonymous · Answer

Forgive him. My wife is asian and my kids half asian...my siblings (except for one) have not even acknowledged my kids. At least he's communicating through your mom (mine died)...Make sure that he's sorry to you (not through your mom). Take Care

Darren · Answer

It's up to you, but if it were me, I'm sorry to say "too little too late." I would have felt that he hurt me and my family enough, what are the chances of him just hurting them/us again in the future. Would I have any guarantees he wouldn't do this again?

Do you know what brought about this change in heart in your brother?

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