Dead-beat Dad - What should I do?

I agree with Kris' answer. When my 13 year old's father found out that I was dating my husband (then boyfriend) 8 years ago, he immediately started to harrass me over the phone. He called me every name in the book, accusing my boyfriend of sexually abusing our daughter-- when he neither met him or spoke to him before. This has gone on ever since. In fact just a few minutes ago, he left a message on my cell, griping about the child support ($234 a month), that he couldn't afford, and that I was ugly and lazy because I depended on his money to get through life on. My husband asked me why I would want to waste my time in listening to his message, because he saw me crying about it. And like Kris said-- just don't answer the phone. You're going to waste years and years trying to get this jerk to admit he's wrong-- and it's taken this long to realize that those kinds of guys never will. They are sociopaths. They think that they can do no wrong, and the rest of the world is at fault for their downfalls. I just have to keep remembering that myself. As far as the child support goes-- keep pursuing it. They'll just keep adding his missed payments to his tab, and take it out of his tax refunds, etc. when they can. And one more word of advice-- don't depend on it. Because when you do, you are depending on him. Best of luck.

In order to get full custody and to receive child support you have to go through the court system so you probably can't do anything in the mean time. Keep up being a good parent and your boyfriend a good parental figure (not sure what he goes by), not giving your ex any standing for any allegations he might make against either of you.

Best of luck

Edit:

On second thought... I think if you go to your attorney and ask, he might be able to get a temporary court order on child support signed by a judge until your court date. I'm not 100% sure but it's worth trying.

You should be able to contact a lawyer about what you can do before the court hearing.

If you also need support about your son's mental disabilities, check out the special education section over in education. There are people there that have been through that much of what you're going through.

Good luck and God bless!

Take detailed notes.

stop answering the phone and arguing with him... there is not one good reason for doing that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!