Finding my way back after marriage has died?

PRAY to God HE will help you even if you think He won't ASK Him He will help you find you way back on track

I'm sure I'm the least qualified to answer your question (I've never been married), but if you were a friend of mine the best advice I could offer is this: There is really nothing you can do to make your wife come back. While I know you're experiencing a lot of pain, the only real option you have is prayer--and Godly counseling from someone who can help keep you together and moving in a good direction. When difficult things happen people either spiral out of control or try and learn something valuable from the experience they're going through...

I'm sorry that you are going through this, I hope you aren't doing this alone...

Where did she go? If she's been gone longer than (I think) 60 days you can divorce because of abandonment.

Look, I know it's tempting to CHASE or try to FIND someone who ran off, but think about it... do you really want to drag someone who abandon their post back to be with you? How do you know (besides what she told you) that she was where she said, or doing the the things she said...

Try to move on by getting counseling. But don't allow this person to abandon you and come back. There are no vanishing acts allowed in marriage.

I have only joined now, so I have not seen your earlier question and wish I had as I would have told you the same thing.

My advice would be to get professional counselling, talk to someone who deals with this (ie marriage counselling) on a day to day basic and has the qualifications and experience.

Even though, I know we would all love to help - you need to speak to a qualified professional.

Good luck and stay strong.

Please know that you are not alone - although you feel that way. Keep talking here, other sites, friends and family. The only thing that you can do is go day by day. Even minute by minute if you need too. The days will go by and news will trickle in. Remember, nothing stays the same. As quickly as this happened it can go away. Stay busy and try not to drink. The alcohol will only add to your anxiety once you sober up. Pray.

I used to be you. My husband abandoned me for the last time after 10 years...and I stopped wanting him back. I filed for the divorce that HE wanted but wouldn't stoop so low to pay for. It cost me $900.00- we didn't have kids or anything. It was a simple dissolution. I lost sleep and 20 pounds and had a hard time functioning, but 2 years later, I finally have a little peace in my life. I'm not going to lie- sometimes I think about how we were and I cry. Sometimes I see old people walking down the street holding hands and I cry...It hurts when someone treats you terribly when you love them so much. At one time, I would've walked through fire for my ex-husband...and now I see him for what he was. (Someone I should've left years ago.) My advice is to let her go. She will continue to hurt you as long as you allow it. You deserve to be loved how you should be loved. Good luck to you.

I'm not familiar with the story, but you sound like you need a break. When your emotions get wound up like this, and especially if your wife is not responding to you, then you have to make the steps to move on. If it has died, then don't go back, always go forward, and start the healing process.

If you make your own happiness dependent on being with her, then you have given up control of your happiness. This is no way to live your life. You must assume she's not coming back and find a way to be happy. Then other women or possibly your wife will be more attracted to you.

Where ever you live there should be a support group. Find some info on support groups. Just talking in a group setting and letting them know what's going on inside will help. Give her more time. See an MD explain to them your situation. They may give you some meds to help with the depression.

I am so sorry, I just joined so I am not sure what went wrong, but my suggestion is to get out of the house go get a drink and try to have a good time with friends, friends make you feel better, get some sun and enjoy life, maybe she will see you are doing just fine without her and come back good luck :)

I can suggest u not to listen to sad songs

songs i suggest u:

'Don't worry be happy'

'Three little birds'

it takes time to heal but these songs in the mean time makes the healing process quicker... dont get urself into negative stuff like sad movies anything negative... go have a walk... go shopping put ur mind aside...