How to deal with a bossy grandmother?

Well, I have also experienced a bit of this with my own mother-in-law. She is wonderful and I love her dearly! But she loves being in control.

The main thing I would tell you is to not cause an argument with her. Once this happens, things will never be the same. So, whatever you do,

What I suggest about the bottle thing is to just not send any more with her. Maybe she will get the hint.

You also need to talk to her. You and your husband need to sit down together and tell her how you are feeling. Let her know how much you appreciate her and how much you love the way she takes care of your daughter, but that she is your daughter and that you need her to respect that. No matter what she says, do not argue with her! If she starts to get upset, tell her you are adults and you want to handle things in an adult manner. If things get bad, walk out of the room and allow your husband to handle the situation. But make sure you and your husband are on the same page first.

Another thing I did, I subscribed my mother-in-law to a magazine about parenting. That way she can see how parenting is now a days compared to back when she was a parent. Also she can see all the new studies out and can see where you stand with certain things.

Always remember she is the grandmother and you do owe her respect no matter how she acts.It took me awhile to realize how very important that is.

I would start out with having your husband talk to her, and if that doesn't work you may have to go a little drastic, I understand where your coming from my mother goes over my head too, and you'll want to stop this before they get too much older.

Don't send any bottles to her house with your child. And take away any of the bottles that she has. I would explain to her one more time that this is your decision, and as her mother, you have that right. She has already raised her children, now let you do it your way. All she is doing is making it harder on you now and in the future.

I took both of my daughters off the bottle on their 1st birthdays. They were great with it. Nothing wrong with having children learn and grow. :)

Good Luck

You first must ask yourself –are you happy with the way your husband turned out?

Then, with his support, try to explain to the grandmother just what you asked of us here by saying something like;

How can I get it across to you, without arguing, that I am the mother and what I say should be respected and she needs to throw away the bottles NOW?

Just saw that you’re paying her. Try to be respectful of her as an elder and having the experience, but be firm with your wishes. Tell her you will consider the option of another sitter

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Even if you are not with the father, he must be involved so ask him to speak with his mom about the bottle situation. She'll listen to him more than you. Really, if you are paying her then what she thinks is right does not matter. She can suggest things, but really has no say.

This is why grannys doing the daycare can be awkward! If it was a daycare centre they would just do as you said...but she is always better off with a relative...do you pay the gran? If not, it is even harder...I suggest that you get some evidence from a dentist that it is bad for their teeth at this age...something printed off the internet...hand it over and say, "Look...now will you chuck the bottles please?"

Tell her that your doctor said 12 months and you have let it go until 16 months. Tell good old grams that she is going to ruin your baby's teeth. Start packing sippy cups too.

Find another person to watch your child. If a non relative was minding your child and didn't listen, you would find another sitter right?

Have your husband speak to her. I think that would be easiest since it is his mother.

Has your husband talked to her? Maybe she'll listen to him.